couples make lots of joint decisions, IVF for instance HAS to be a joint decision so who says abortion CANT be a joint decision?
Abortion can be a joint decision just as IVF can be a joint decision. And both can be decided by the woman without her partner's input at all. For example, my husband can say he does not want to have another child and I want to have another one. So I can use donor sperm and be done with it. And if my husband wanted me to abort said child and I refused, it would be my decision entirely.
In other words, it can be a joint decision as it can be an individual decision.
Its not insane and its not wrong (objectivly), actually the US (and to an extend the rest of the wests) "indervidual" focus especially for health care is quite rare.
I disagree. When I had my children, my care was my own. As in it was individual. My husband did not even factor into it unless I invited him.
For instance alot of asian people a health care proffessional treats they are expected not to even talk to the pt about whats wrong with them, they dont want to know. Its the family or the head of the family or the husband (depending on the country of origion) who is expected to make the health care decisions.
And that is better to you, is it? Do you want to have a say and control over your partner's health care? You don't think she should have a say in it at all? Or are you going to be all lovey dovey and say it will be a "joint decision"?
So to say that "only a women can make a decision about abortion" is a compleate and utter LOAD OF CRAP.
Reality says otherwise. If I choose to have an abortion, it is my decision and my responsibility. And being a woman, yes, that decision is my own. My husband could not demand that I have one, as he could not demand I do not have one. He only gets a say if I invite his say.
But the ultimate decision is mine and mine alone. Just as if one day you and your partner find out that she is pregnant and she decides to abort it, without even telling you. You have no ultimate say in the matter. That is the reality. She might give you a say, but the decision is entirely hers. She can completely disregard your wishes on the matter.
Feminists might WANT it that way but that simply doesnt make it the case
So much hate.
Reality goes against your argument of what you think reality actually is.
And yes, if you want her to have an abortion and she refuses, you are still financially liable for that child and will remain financially liable until that child reaches 18 years of age.
That is why when you become involved with someone, you find out first and foremost what the expectations will be and what she thinks she will want to do. If she says to you it's none of your business, take your doodle elsewhere, is my advice.