Deep down inside you are a Mesolithic pack-social creature like all of us. Your ethics are about the good of the pack because you cannot survive without them. We have successfully stretched our definition of "pack" to include ever-larger communities. But regardless of how far along a person is in that social evolution that we call "civilization," everyone has the instinct to trust and care about his pack. Only sociopaths lack it and I'm pretty sure you're not a sociopath.
That does not sound like me. I do what I do because that is what I expect to receive. If what I receive does not match my expectations, I may not retaliate but it does not mean I forget.
Therefore your ethics are almost certainly about your community and are not egocentric.That's the problem with the Golden Rule. We need to do unto others as they would have done unto themselves, not as we would have done unto ourselves
Nope, I'm very much an individualist. I don't do things because people expect them but because I want to. It might be a problem if my values were less acceptable in the society I lived in. I am a firm believer in the principle that you cannot control what other people do, only what you do (or say).
.And of course that's the problem with the civilization-updated redefinition of the Golden Rule. What if treating another person the way he wants to be treated conflicts with your own standard of how you want to be treated? What if a fundamentalist Christian literally cannot be comfortable and content if anyone living within a thousand miles of him is openly gay? What if it is a violation of his religion to not constantly proselytize it to others, even if the proselytism makes them miserable?
What if its an atheist who does not want to take communion, an atheist who does not want to worship at church, an atheist who thinks abortion is fine because cells are not identifiable as children so its not really murder if it doesn't look like a child? What if its a Buddhist to whom euthanasia is a sin? What if its a Muslim to whom desecrating the Quran is a sin?
Then in that case, one does what one does in a pluralistic society. Don't flaunt your sexuality and respect other peoples beliefs. In Asian society, we have a saying that criticism must be polite or it is counter productive. I find my reactions reflect my expectations and people find it easier to meet me halfway when they know I am willing to give them the same consideration.
Okay, what if an immigrant from the Philippines finds dog meat to be the absolute tastiest food in the world and he is miserable without it, and furthermore he gains the respect of his fellows by being able to serve dog meat at the church picnic, but the smell of dog meat makes everyone else in the city throw up and the mere awareness of it makes them weep?
What if its a vegetarian who won't eat with someone who is eating meat?
Who gets to decide these conflicts? You can't just say, "I always do what I think is right." That's not the way communities work.
Every individual decides what his comfort zone is and society adjsusts accordingly.
I think this is the post about the priests disrupting the funeral of a gay soldier. As far as I'm concerned, if you hold a funeral in a public place like a cemetery, then the rules of expression in public places prevail. No hate speech if it's not a Nazi rally, no shouting if it's not a bunch of kids acting crazy, but a peaceful expression should be allowed. If it's inside a church then the churches can make their own rules.
Next time a redneck priest dies, get all of your gay friends to dress up in their most outlandish outfits and go attend his funeral. America is just so not about decorum.
Not much difference between the two is there? If I were to reciprocate every insult I received with an insult of my own, how stable a society would I create?
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