Over the years one of the things I learned was that conservative censors fretting about musical and literary content, or sex and violence in television and movies, turned out to be right about desensitization and even conformist behavior, but this was only evident if we looked at the ideological heritage that worried so, and then look at their children and their children's children. That is to say, they were clearly right as long as they were speaking of themselves and their own.
In truth I've become a bit
resensitized in recent years. It's complex. Instead of focusing, say, on the fascinating destruction in certain horror movies and books, I perceive all sorts of other stuff about death, loss, and grief. Part of it is middle age, and accentuated by fatherhood for having something to focus on. To wit, sometime about a year ago a weird sequence of perfectly mundane events absolutely lodged homemade macaroni and cheese in my mind as a symbol of desperate deathbed regret, and I can even give you the literary and media framework—John D. Fitzgerald, Tim O'Brien, and some person or collective going by the name Takahiro—and, quite frankly, the change that occurred that night appears permanent; that is to say, something changed.
And it's the stupidest little grotesquerie, but in its context I jut can't deal with it, and it has become something of a benchmark or milepost along my human transformation by which the frets of desensitization in my teenage years turned out to be largely insensate; what they were upset about was the perception that we were desensitized to their bullshit. At least, that's how it went in my corner of the U.S, but our desensitization discussion, as long as I've been aware of it, is subordinate to politics and personal aesthetics.
But we do face a new desensitization potential in the idea of normalizing violence, and it does have to do with normalizing mass murder as part of our American reality. It will be interesting to watch how this goes, especially when one can is as specifically cynical as I can be.
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There are at least two sides to every real story told.
A version of an old philosophical question: If six people witness an event, they will give you six different accounts of that event; does this mean six different events have occurred?
It's a lot easier to recognize if we pay attention to what people actually say and do compared to stylized examples.
The thing is that within the range, some accounts will correspond more accurately to what actually happened than others.
More directly, sure, there are sides to any story, and sometimes one of those sides is right and others are wrong.
Consider our neighbor's side; it has an appearance of nihilism that he refuses to close. This is what it is, and so what. Still, though, as a functional proposition, fulfilling his critique—
Those who throw out the line
Well it is not against the law but it wasn't moral
are in effect saying
You should have behaved the way I think you should behave
—in such a manner that maintains the nihilism removes any social convention. Like my example about marriage and monogamy:
• He shouldn't cheat because [I say he should behave that way]. It's not just because I say so: He promised when we got married. But that's just one side of the story. Yes, but what is the alternative? That his promise means nothing? That our marriage means nothing? But that's just one side of the story.
Here are two sides to a story:
• I am equal to you. We have equal protection under the law. This is our constitutional right.
(But that's just one side of the story ....)
• I am equal to you, therefore I get to decide what rights you have or don't, and what you owe me, and I owe you nothing in return.
Functionally speaking, that is a pretty big dispute Americans have been having for, well, a long, long time, largely for the sake of numbers; a lot of people really lust after the abusive empowerment of that second side of the story.
In the present consideration, it's just a weird gap in the principle that is only reconciled by saying it's not a gap,
i.e., If
"Those who throw out the line Well it is not against the law but it wasn't moral, are in effect saying You should have behaved the way I think you should behave",
then the very conventions by which those two people would be talking to one another don't exist. It is a self-nullifying proposal unless the nihilism is accounted for. Yet, in truth, I'm not surprised that some need it to remain open. I've probably been explicitly aware of it for a quarter-century, and there are two primary resolutions; one is to give over to the nihilism, which in a way is part of the difference 'twixt taking one's own life and trying to take down a bunch of other people with oneself; but there is also adopting convention as a functional necessity of survival. That is to say, a person participates in convention because the organism tends toward life.
Consider this tendency akin to the
Cogito: This is the experience I am having; I can either deal with it or hold out and see what happens.
Thus we participate in conventions such as personal relationships, families, communities, and larger societies, even striving toward a unified human notion of civilization.
And as you note, there are at least two sides to every story: One can participate in society, or hold out. The nihilistic gap in the principle on this occasion reflects dimensions of holding out.
For instance, none of it really matters if the civilized society itself, by which every element of our neighbor's assertion exists, isn't real.
In the spirit of humans climbing the mountain because it's there, willful autoextinction of the species is not something we should undertake simply because we have the capacity to try.
Thing is, most people just don't think their principles through like that.
But that's also the thing about nihilism; it is self-consuming.
To the other, few are the properly tautalogical truths in the world, so we're not calling off society over this kind of stuff.
Still, though, I love the part about
"informed consent"↑ when the question is fraud. That's the kind of practical conflict such self-obsessive principles lead to in everyday life, and surely enough, the way around it is to call off the conventions about that part of everyday life. And the self-centered
morality of the circumstance↑ is as mysterious as it is predictable.
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No dysfunction
No practical problems - unless you count a overgrown garden
Not antisocial
No door bell ringing by police or anyone else saying I am culpable for anything
At which point, though, you seem to have achieved functional meaninglessness; it's not a
question of good or bad person, nor of culpability↑, but, rather, an apparent rejection of utility or purpose.