A love a forum where the focus in upon moderators rather than ideas and where the weak and stupid are crying to be protected from anyone that speaks honestly and openly.
Often a civilized discussion is a way of saying a debate where nobody actually speaks his minds and keeps censoring himself so as the fragile ego of the weak will not be overly bruised. A way of mass participation.
You know when the discussions are centralized around bullshit and superstition or flirting or moderator bias and behavior, then in what way is this a forum of open intellectual discourse- an "intelligent community", Ha! - and not a teenage hangout where morons gather to scratch each others backs and pick each others gnats?
Maybe you should rename it to Facebook or LoveLine or soemthing.
If popularity is the goal of this forum and not creating a medium for intellectual exchange, then you are certainly on the right path. Mediocrity is always popular.