I'm sure it ultimately depends on the person, however I am just speaking in general.
Is it rude if I just hit on a girl randomly while shes at work as a waitress, or reading a book in a library etc...
The reason why I am asking this is because I have a tendency of doing it and asking for numbers, however, looking at it from an attractive girls perspective, it could be quite a nuisance for them to deal with that on a daily basis, which im sure they do.
I finally got what bothered me about the thread topic. There
is something wrong with hitting on women randomly. What an odd thing to do. I mean at a minimum there should be some kind of attraction, or what are you doing. (and I am sure this is the case) So right there random goes out the window. But even with attractiveness, I think what is odd is that some men - and some women - are attracted at such an extreme superficial level that it is more or less random, and I think that can be offputting.
Let me see if I can show you what I mean....
You ever see a woman (or man for any woman reading this) who you can see it attractive, but you don't feel attracted. They are not quite your type, or the vibe is wrong. Or something...for whatever reason, you are not really attracted.
I think a lot of men see women like they are fashion photographers. They see a generalized beauty or attractiveness and confuse this with being attracted. They then hit on anywoman who is objectively attractive. They hit on an idea. No warmth, nothing remotely special in the attraction, just sort of like ticking on women on a checklist. I think this can be felt by women.
Oh, she is 'attractive', let me see if I can get close to her.
I don't want to focus on the moral aspects of this, but why not the practical. What is this guy doing? It is like there is an objective good life where you have sex with attractive women and fall in love with one, maybe. Rather than coming from your personal, very subjective attractions.
I see attractive women every day I don't get the impression I want to be close to. I wouldn't ask one of them out. Maybe two seconds later they crack a joke or smile or say something interested or just the way they move and bang, I personally am attracted. OK.
I think the checklist objective thing is strange and not in guys' best interests though they may die before they notice that they are chasing ideas and not women they will really like or even enjoy the sex with.