If people are just (actually, probably "more") susceptible to desire, greed and anger
I used thisquote merely to say that I enjoyed your videoand to thank you for posting it.
He is to be believed as he has a beard.
I think I can take it one step further.
And I got shouted down here when I suggested this recently.But I still employ the machinery that I suggest.
I try to say of so many things that would probably get me angry..
"Things just are."
from that I remind myself that one need not judge so many things.
If a guy cuts you off in traffic well it is so easy to get angry ..whereas I try to say..."things just are"..meaning this sort of thing happens frequently and getting angry is to complain in effect of something that happen time and time again... as our learned friend said when recalling advice from his father..the guy may well regret his foolishness.
And so often when I have done something stupid such that it may anger others I certainly regret my perhaps impulsive and inappropriate action.
I when presenting my machinery to manage anger I made the mistake of saying I did not judge things to be good or bad and that bought astrong responce that there are bad things...and of course there are many bad things...but my use of this simple machinery lets one avoid getting upset with so many things that really one should not be bothered letting take up head space. I suggest try and avoid even step one of the various parts of anger as outlined by our learned friend.
These days I find I get angry less than I once would and it is because these words jump into my mind rather easily now.
And as the learned genteleman in the video says as to the final stage of his clever break down of the components of anger, the part about resentment...the folly is to let anger persist as resentment allow someone to inhabit your head space. This is where you need to forgive..not so much for them but for you and your peace of mind.
So often its not the event that causes the damage but it comes from stewing over somethin that may not have gone the way you expected... For example..He did not pay back the loan anger invades..well the loss was when you first put your hand in your pocket..stewing over it and taking your mind off the next constructive thing to do is what causes real damage and the lost funds will be insignificant when compared to the stewing over the loss of cash.
And if anything one could thank that person to remind one not to lend money if there is a chance it wont come back without a fuss.SO in one aspect the blame liesnot with the debtor but with you for being silly to lend...And certainly if it is your business to lend well you would have taken security and the problem would never have been an issue.
Again thanks for the video I really liked that chap.
alex