If you want to keep your anger towards me, that is fine. I can take it.
I was trying to offer you an invitation to bury the hatchet, but if you'd rather be standoffish, that's your business. If you wish to reconsider, just be aware that the offer comes with the condition of an apology. And I don't just mean from you to me, but that
is a part of it.
However, said anger is also not really pertaining to this thread's subject matter.
Nor were your lamentations for being rude to Geoff on several previous occasions, in threads entirely unrelated to this one.
And while this is the religious forum and thus, it will always be about someone's faith, and yes, there are some hum-dinger battles and where it has gotten very personal, getting personal with someone you had previously gotten along with fairly well and as you just admitted, someone you confided in, because of their faith or because of the nature of this particular issue (I had explained why in previous posts to you in this thread), then that is wrong.
Look, I appreciate the concern, but where you had previously offered some friendly advice, you're going overboard now. The rules of the site don't change just because Geoff and I swapped a couple of private messages after your incident, and I don't need you condescending me out of some misplaced sense of duty.
Geoff and I do not get along. I ignore him outside of Human Science and the other few sub-forums where because of my position here, I have to read what is posted there regardless. I do it to avoid conflict with him because we do not get along and because the nature of our conflict has always tended to steer into what is personal. On the few occasions where we argued via PM or on the open forums. What has been said between he and I can never ever be taken back. Ever. My previous advice to you was to ensure you do not go down the road we did. I am not going to defend my actions or accuse him of his towards me. It would be off-topic and frankly, would just create more conflict. I prefer to just ignore him. Makes me happy and I don't care how that makes him.
Okay, that's your perspective. But I don't need you badgering me if I take a different tack.
Was he being intellectually dishonest in this thread? Yes, very much so. Was it annoying? Yes. Arguing about faith is one thing on this sub-forum. But dragging someone over the coals because of their faith or their discomfort in an argument because of what they believe religiously and where the alternative would be for them to confront their atheism or to force them into that standpoint and to do it in such a personal manner? I'll put it this way. It was clear he was not comfortable and he had made that clear... And that is where and why it should have stopped. In other words, it was no longer about the subject of this thread but was leaning more towards his being dragged through the ringer because he wasn't declaring atheism almost, if that makes sense...
You're grossly misrepresenting what has happened here. He was not some wounded animal backed into a corner, he was seeking this argument just as much as we were, and he did just as much coal-raking.
And nobody was attacking him because of his faith, or trying to force atheism upon him. His
arguments were being attacked, and his
excuses were being attacked. If he was uncomfortable, then why did he keep attacking
our arguments? It's not as if he said "Alright, agree to disagree" or something similar. If someone made a point for our side, he jumped on it. You call that being raked over the coals? You call that being forced? Please.
You don't like me and you are also angry with me. As I said, I can take it and you can go off at me as much as you want. I don't really care.
I don't know you enough to dislike you or be mad at you. I don't like what you said about me, and I don't like that you weren't disciplined for it. I don't like that you never apologized. I
had simply figured it was just because you were one of those people who didn't care what others think, but this episode makes me reconsider. And that bugs me even more, because in all these lamentations about your war with Geoff, you don't even mention that you said things to
me that couldn't be taken back. I don't know, perhaps it's a trifling detail, but I noticed it, and it stuck.
But he cared that he was being targetted because he wasn't going to take a line that would force him to declare his theistic leanings as being void and thus, an atheist.
For one, there are plenty of ways he could have admitted he was wrong without having a crisis of faith. There's always the possibility that he simply doesn't like to be wrong, and he was debasing himself to that end, rather than trying to protect his spiritual integrity.
For two, you presume too much on his behalf. Geoff is a big boy, and he did some big boy debating. The only thing getting ravaged were his arguments, not his person or his sensibilities.
Atheism is always personal. It shouldn't be forced on someone that way. That is more damaging to an individual's psyche. I do not think that is acceptable. Even if the target is Geoff.
You can't force unbelief on someone anymore than you can force belief on them. Seriously, give it a rest.