EmptyForceOfChi said:
by masculine do you mean "tough" "hard" "good fighter" ? if so then no sexual preference has nothing to do with fighting skills im a long term martial artist and i know gay guys who are bigger than me look meaner than me and can fight nearly aswell as i can.
If you have grown up somewhere outside modern west you know that the ‘sexual preference’ or ‘orientation’ thing is a farce. Being Gay is more of a gender thing.
The big and mean fighters you are talking about are not really gay --- they have just taken on the identity because:
(a) the western society gives no space to men to bond emotionally or sexually with another man in the mainstream --- not even in the guise of friendships, and
(b) they are ignorant …… they don’t know that the heterosexual, mixed gender environment that they grow up in ----- which kills or failing which isolates male sexual need for other men ------ is an artificial, unnatural one. They are being duped into a ‘gay’ identity when their place is in the mainstream. It’s how their society has constructed male gender and sexuality and they have no choice in the matter.
EmptyForceOfChi said:
but if you were saying does a mans sexual preference have anything to do with him bieng a man then yeah it does, hormones occir in the body for this very reason and makes the male have a competative ature because he wants to lay down dominance to impress the females, look at nature,
That’s your social conditioning speaking. We have already discussed in the thread titled “there is no evidence of heterosexuality in nature” about the male sexual behaviour in the wild. We’ll be taking up the issue again in this thread – as we are discussing the relationship between masculinity and heterosexuality.
Science has no way to establish the ‘why’s’ of nature. That’s pure guesswork. It can only tell the ‘what’ and the ‘how’.
Hormones are known to increase/ result in a person’s desire to have sex. But there is no evidence that they determine the so-called ‘sexual preference’ or that male hormones directly result in a sexual desire for females, leave alone an exclusive desire for women. In fact all evidences suggest that an excess of hormones makes a person look for sex irrespective of the gender of the person.
In fact it is the excessive male hormones that make fighters out of men, and if so-called ‘gay’ men are mean fighters, it certainly shows that hormones don’t matter in the so-called ‘sexual preference’.
The fact is that the males in the wild who fight with opponents over females are not in the least what we understand by the term heterosexuality.
There are many points to be considered here:
1. Not all virile or powerful/ alpha males fight to mate. Have you noticed in innumerous T.V. programmes how only one pair fights while the rest merrily chew on the grass or carry on their chores.
2. Males who do fight for females only do it when it’s time for reproduction, otherwise they ignore the female even if she approaches them.
3. Most males mate only a couple of times in their lives. That too only in the latter part.
4. The reason for fights is not really to impress the females (females --- whether in the wild or amongst humans are hardly impressed by such tactics…..they are more likely to freak out!). Rather, it is (a) the need for competition amongst males and (b) the fact that whenever something is scarce it calls for competition and a physical fight is the only way the male in the wild knows to deal with the competitor --- whether male or female.
5. That the masculine males who fight for the chance to pass on their genes for reproduction don’t care for the female once their job is done. There is no romantic involvement, no emotional bond or intimacy, no social interaction after that. They are not even likely to meet each other again.
6. It is interesting to note that the males who do bond (like in some cases of red fox which is an exceptional case) with the females for short periods to bring up children are not the ‘fighters’. E.g. the tactic they adopt to save their children from aggressors is to run in the opposite direction to distract the aggressor’s attention from the kids. Such males prefer to avoid physical enounters. The rare Female that bonds with males to bring up children is also not likely to choose an aggressive, dominant male. Often such males end up rearing children of other aggressive males who fight for a chance to mate.