Baron Max said:
One can't be "deceived" by a lack of knowledge!
I obviously disagree.
Someone can very well be decieved by a lack of knowledge.
As a simple (perhaps extreme) example, if you do not tell your wife that you slept with the baby sitter, have you deceived her?
Baron Max said:
I think you're considering that a person might deceive HIMSELF by making erroneous assumptions or conclusions, but that's surely not the fault of the other person.
How is one "automatically led to a conclusion"? And more importantly, whose fault is it?
True, and a good point.
It changes nothing however, in practice.
If Bob asks me if I had sex with Jennifer, and I know Bob well enough, I will know what he will assume if I refuse to answer.
Theory and practice are OFTEN two different things, especially when applied to interpersonal relationships.
Baron Max said:
And why is abstaining from answering a lie? That makes no sense ...does that mean that person who can't talk is always telling lies?
I think you misunderstood. I didn't say that abstaining from answering is a lie.
Baron Max said:
One thing that I think is important is that while social structure might "force" us to lie, that still does NOT make it moral to lie.
I completely disagree.
Do you have a book of moral rules you go by? What page is that on?
To paraphrase Ayn Rand, "To live a life by anyone's morals but your own is to live an immoral life."
The point of morals is to encourage fairness, justice and socially permissable behavior in an effort to reduce the amount of suffering inflicted upon people.
Thinking it is a solid steadfast set of unbreakable, unbendable rules to be followed religiously defeats the whole purpose.
Baron Max said:
If to protect a loved one from unneccesary pain you tell it a lie, that's fine ...you're a nice guy according to current social standards, but it's still a lie and it's still immoral.
What are common community morals based on if NOT current social standards?
Morality is something that evolves with society and reflects its standards, priorities and beliefs.