Part the First
ElectricFetus said:
Well things seems to have gotten so personal, if someone comes at you with pitchforks and torches, survival of self is primary.
Well, unless we're women. As I gather it from this and however many discussions we've attempted in this community about the human rights of woman, there are different customary rules in place for them.
As to you and me, I don't know, is it a macho thing? I don't do machismo very well.
However, I will note that as long as people insist on these discussions being egocentrically driven, all we're doing is prattling on about someone's egocentrism. Is there something about this notion that is diffcult for
anyone to understand?
But yes if all that is required from you is that explicit acknowledgement of women's humanity and human rights to calm you by all means use it!
See, it's when you try these tacks that you remind what this is about.
Functionally―as in
real function occurring in
real life―it makes a huge difference.
To revisit the rights of a corpse and a couple other issues you chose to dabble in back then, at the very least for the length of this sentence, I would point out that the humanity and human rights of woman (full stop) makes a massive
practical difference, even in addressing the
abstractions of these issues, by setting the bar higher than mere aesthetics as justification for refusing the human rights of woman.
See your assuming I'm cuddling bigots, I don't believe I am, so we need to first define how I am, and then define what cuddling bigots means in a historical sense.
Just so I understand how you're coming at this question:
Is there no clue in our exchange so far that would illuminate this?
I only ask because I'm about to repeat myself.
"Well I think it wrong to call anyone a term in hopes of dismissing their argument, its simply an Ad Hominem. 'You say X is true, therefor you are Y!' Y being something we all agree is bad, but X is not proven to be untrue simply because someone may or may not be Y."
There are two problems here. First, accurate descriptions of behavior are not
ad hominem, and I think you already know that. Second, you presume a very simplistic process. For instance, in the question of hitting on random women, we end up, earlier in this thread, with the assertion that simply by leaving the house a woman in principle makes herself available to be sexually harassed. This is inherently misogynistic.
I would also note that one need not "call anyone a term" in order to offend their delicate sensibilities. As you read through this thread, for instance, notice how many people need to change a proposition in order to denounce it. Some are offended long before anyone deploys any particular term against them. I think the colloquial response to such pretenses of offense goes, approximately,
"Struck a nerve, there, eh?"
But in that paragraph, you're coddling misogyny and misogynists by the pretense that if someone does not like an accurate term describing their behavior, that term becomes a fallacious insult. Racism is racism. Misogyny is misogyny. Bigotry is bigotry.
In American history, we have made some pretty strong advances against bigotry, and there is a lot of work left to be done. But let us take racism as an example. Being called a racist, and recognizing that the term is not one of honor, upsets racists. It will, as you put assert, "only harden their emotional resolve".
Very well. If nobody called out racism because it would be better to not upset racists and harden their emotional resolve, just how would we have made what progress we have?
Between 1962 and 1993, for instance, feminists and other civil rights allies upset the hell out of misogynists. I note these dates because that span represents the beginning of the Sexual Revolution and the last American state striking its marital rape exemption. If nobody called out misogyny and rape, you know, because it would make the misogynists and rapists uncomfortable and only harden their emotional resolve, how much
more progress do you think the human rights of woman would have accomplished in our society? Would you assert that if nobody said anything about misogyny and rape during those decadess, we not only would have struck the rape exemptions sooner, but also would have seen fewer states reserve those rapes to lesser charges?
What is the historical precedent for the principle that accommodating injustice compels justice? When has that ever worked?
I would say in the present time though that letting bigots be in some circumstances is not only harmless ...
I'm parsing this fragment specifically to remind that you're risking that pretense of harmlessness against real and genuine harm.
Toward that point, I would ask you to review:
The first (#87) includes a sentence that reads, "Yeah, it's not her job"; that is to say, it's not her job to be whatever a guy hitting on a woman wants her to be. I have a more explicitly detailed
blog version↱ that focuses on a different iteration of objectification, but the point remains pretty much the same:
Because it’s none of your business. You don’t know what kind of day she is having, either, and it’s none of your fucking business. She doesn’t need a reason, dude. Really, man, if the “reason” she is not smiling is because she happens to not, at this moment, be smiling, it’s still not your fucking business. Because you need to understand that you just don’t look very nice when you’re standing there like a dick telling her to smile. And you know how you’d be more attractive, dude? If you were somewhere else.
The second (#90) includes an attempt to defend "chivalry":
It would be great if a flag went up worldwide that said 'now it is time to socialize' but that's not reality. People looking to make friends or more with another person is part of society. No one who steps into a public place has the right to say "I never want to be seen as approachable." They do have the right to say "I do not wish to be approached now. Go away." or "You should know that this is a place where it is not appropriate (perhaps, the workplace)."
So here we have two contrasting arguments. To the one, it's not her job to smile for a man; to the other, she doesn't have the right to leave the house with the expectation of not being treated that way; after all, she can just tell him no.
The third, #679 from the "What is 'Rape Culture'?" thread, reminds how this can go.
Thus, we come back 'round to that fragment: There are certainly times when it seems proximally harmless to leave the bigot be, but whose life are you or I willing to trade out for that?
I just don't see any substantial benefit in the proposition of harmlessness.
... but trolling them is fun and can strengthen anti-bigotry sentiment. A reasoned argument against them followed by a banana dance, what is wrong with that?
Remember that bit just a few posts ago about
square zero↗?
And in the
second part↗ I recounted the rape culture thread?
Would you please review a brief post,
#253↗, from that thread?
Something about a reasoned argument goes here. But how to put it? Perhaps I might suggest you err in presuming reasoned argument has any substantial effect.
Which in turn brings us back to the proposition of having to start the whole cycle over for the next person in line. The cumulative effect of dancing through that cycle over and over again is constant distraction from the actual, living, functional issue.
The difference between principle and practice seems quite relevant here; sure, reasoned argument followed by rhetorical escalation might sound useful, but that presumes reasoned argument has any effect. For instance, sometimes
trying to be reasonable↗, even when you can see the punch line coming, simply gets one
dismissed in favor of a straw man↗. (Either link will do; they're consecutive posts.)
*coddling-cuddling same thing right?
Not quite, but I wasn't going to make a point of it.
I failed to see how to working reason into someone is putting someone elses human right to the "back seat".
I would contest that statement as inaccurately founded. Please see point (2) in
#273↑ above, which responds to your argument―
"I had a long reply but this ended it, look I came here for a calm and reasonable discussion, you were under no obligation or requirement to rehash anything to me, explain anything to me, especially if you felt it was beneath you or repetitive, but being accused of misogyny is not something I take lightly. Look lets not beat around the bush, if you want me to leave just say it."
―from
#271↑ above.
Also, pride, surely you have notice I have none?
"Pride"↑? Are you sure the word you're looking for isn't "shame"?
―End Part I―