Parenthood is a known risk of heterosexual intercourse
Sifreak21 said:
condoms are 100% effective..
Is that a typo?
and my problem with the whole deal is yes i know it takes 2 people to make a child 1 man 1 woman. yet when it comes to having a child or aborting the child the man has absolutly NO SAY what soever in what happens.
Well, what share of the say do you think a man should get? Given the actual individual investment of time, body, and labor, a man pretty much uses up his say when he ejaculates.
yet if the woman chooses to the man has to pay. and in many cases pays about 90% of all the childs needs as childsupport is done on income.
It's
really quite simple:
If you're so frightened, don't take the risk.
Get a nancy. Get to know your hand. Get a vasectomy. Devise a precoital contract and hope for the best.
It's getting laid. If it's a one nighter, it's not about the myriad mysteries of the human spirit, it's about getting off.
And nothing about getting laid gives you ownership over what takes place inside another person's body.
If you don't like what happens to your sperm after you leave it inside a woman's body, then don't freakin' litter like that.
If you need mechanical illustrations, like buying a car, then let's try this one:
I smoke. Does that mean I deserve to go blind?
Specifically, I smoke pot. I'm pretty much done, I think, smoking tobacco, but I will probably never quit smoking marijuana.
One risk of smoking marijuana, though, is that the most common methods among my circles involve using firemaking devices in a manner they were not intended to be used. A standard cigarette lighter is meant to be flicked on and released fairly quickly. It is not meant to be ignited, held in such a manner that its primary heat dispersal is against its own valve system, maintained as such for several seconds, given a few seconds rest, re-ignited, held in such a manner that its primary heat dispersal is against its own valve sytem, maintained as such for several seconds, &c., &c.
Flick my Bic. It's
not meant to be used that way.
There is always a slender possibility that the lighter will explode. When you turn fire against a device filled with pressurized, flammable gas, it's an inherent risk.
So, yes, it is possible that a lighter might explode and burn my eyes beyond function, or drive small pieces of plastic through my eyeballs.
It's possible.
It sucks, to be sure. I would never say anyone deserves for that to happen. But yes, it's a risk of the behavior. And it's one I undertake regularly, and will undertake regularly for the rest of my life.
If you engage in sexual contact with a female,
and your body is capable of delivering viable sperm,
and her body produces and delivers viable ova,
then pregnancy is a risk. It may not be the intention to knock a woman up, but neither is it my intention to drive small, sharp fragments of plastic through my freaking eyeballs.
Just like your example with the car.
That is a risk of
getting married. I have known men whose lives were ruined when their wives took off and went on a spending spree with the credit cards. I know a woman who is legally saddled with debt from her ex-husband's father's funeral and hospital bills. It's one of the risks of
getting married.
Everything we do involves some manner of risk.
And it just slays me every time I encounter the various arguments about why it's unfair that a man should have to risk anything in order to get laid.
I've heard people argue that it's unfair that a man should have to risk being charged with rape. That it's unfair that a man should have to pay child support. That it's unfair that a man can't force a woman to have a baby he fertilized. And, you know, from the mundane to the extreme, my reply is pretty much the same:
Having sex with a woman is not some intrinsic right of being a man. And, yes, we do
have alternatives. If the risk is such a worry, then consider those alternatives.
I don't care about the math:
Parenthood is not about parents.
And, yes,
parenthood is a known risk of heterosexual intercourse.
