You're cherry-picking your examples. That is a disingenuous argument.But you are right, it was all Poland's fault to be next to Germany, a pretty girl's fault to be pretty and not wash her face with bleach to scare off possible rapers, or the homeowner's fault that he didn't have a panic room with a live-in policeman.
No one is trying to "blame the victim," or at least I'm not. On the other hand, insurance companies routinely point to actions and decisions which could have been thought out a little more carefully to reduce the possibility of becoming a victim.Do you want more examples? We can always blame the victim.
First you need to learn the vocabulary and formulas of risk analysis, which are used to define these concepts. But you seem hell-bent on ignoring the very existence of the discipline, so you're nearly impossible to communicate with. It's like asking me to explain how to calculate the speed of an object when it hits the floor after being dropped from a certain height, while at the same time refusing to learn how gravity, velocity, force and acceleration are defined.You can't give me a definition (after all you are the linguist guy) for victim's responsibility, go ahead and try...
I don't know the statistics, and cases of rape are different.
In many cases, it is the woman who initiates physical violence, and things escalate from there.
Right or Raped?
We have a basic question that we ask: What would you rather be, right or raped?
When after the woman replies that she doesn't want to get raped, we reply: Then you better quite trying to "win" and focus more on doing something that will keep you from getting raped.
From purely informal and unscientific interviews that we have done with rape victims we discovered an astonishing trend. In approximately 80% of all the date rapes the woman initiated the physical violence.
If a child plays with matches and things go out of hand and the house burns down, this doesn't automatically mean that the child intended to burn the house down.
But if he didn't play with the matches, the fire probably wouldn't start.
If you run down the stairs, fall and break your leg, this doesn't automatically mean that you intended to break your leg.
But if you wouldn't run down the stairs, you probably wouldn't break your leg.
If some people pay you to wait in front of the bank with the car started (while they go to rob the bank), and you accept the payment and agree to drive them where they tell you and drive them there, you are complicit, even if you had no idea that they went to rob the bank.
But for all practical intents and purposes, complicity refers to thinking, saying or doing anything that may make the situation worse.
Reposting my question to Cifo, as I'd really like an answer::
Why would someone WANT to be a victim of a violent crime?
Can you give me a list of potential reasons why someone might desire that?
In fact... Can ANYBODY tell me why someone would want to be a victim?
OMG! My thoughts exactly. I wasn't born with any guarantees. Hey, did anyone here get a guarantee when they were born — or anytime afterwards?Some people seem to think that there should be such absolute risk management, or they think that some people are advocating that everyone should be able to manage risk absolutely.
From purely informal and unscientific interviews that we have done with rape victims we discovered an astonishing trend. In approximately 80% of all the date rapes the woman initiated the physical violence.
I doubt that is what they think. I think they and certainly I am reacting to your sense of complicity by pointing out that it leads to all rape victims - except those locked in basements holding carbined aimed at the one entrance - complicit in their rapes, since everyone could have done something that might have reduced their risk of being raped, except infants.Originally Posted by wynn
Some people seem to think that there should be such absolute risk management, or they think that some people are advocating that everyone should be able to manage risk absolutely.
There are things you can do to increase the probability of something bad happening to you, and there are other things you can do to decrease that probability.
... a woman trying to look sexy ... for who? She may intend for her appearance to attract only the rich and handsome eligible bachelors, but the reality is that it will attract the general public, including the perverts, scumbags and sleazeballs.the repeated implication that a woman trying to look sexy is complicit because she intends to provoke something that rape is merely a lot of is both false and offensive.
... a woman trying to look sexy ... for who? She may intend for her appearance to attract only the rich and handsome eligible bachelors, but the reality is that it will attract the general public, including the perverts, scumbags and sleazeballs.
When is it not her fault and when is she not complicit in her rape?
Well I see how classist you are since see the non-rich general public as being where the problem lies.... a woman trying to look sexy ... for who? She may intend for her appearance to attract only the rich and handsome eligible bachelors, but the reality is that it will attract the general public, including the perverts, scumbags and sleazeballs.
Yup. Only a woman seeking to be raped is complicit in her rape. I assume there a couple of instances where this is actually what the woman's intentions are.Apparently, according to this thread, never....
Apparently, according to this thread, never....
I find your whole "blame the victim" stance disgusting.
And I find it disgusting the way you refuse to read what is actually being said.
I find it disgusting the way you jump to conclusions, the way you assume the worst, the way you interpret uncharitably, the way you twist around what is being said.
It is truly hurtful.