Why do women get the better deal in court?

Princess said:
Here's a statistic for you to chew on - women get paid 79 cents to the dollar that men earn.
This is another often-quoted but very misleading feminist statistic. When women and men do the same job and have the same level of education and experience they get paid almost exactly the same amount; the differences are statistically insignificant.

It is true that on average women make less than men, but that's largely because men tend to enter into high-paying jobs while women tend to enter lower-paying jobs. Also, women are more likely to switch careers or take long breaks from their career, which means that they usually have less experience in any given job than their male counterparts. If you actually compare women to male colleagues who have the same level of education and experience, they make almost exactly the same amount.
As far as custody goes, have you ever thought that perhaps custody of the children is not a reward but a burden? The primary caregiver is the primary breadwinner and will almost always spend more money than the child support paying parent.
That's kind of a silly argument, since here we're talking about situations where both parents want to have custody.
 
Nasor said:
I'm pretty sure that men and women are equally likely to cheat, abuse the children, or be responsible for whatever other 'bad behavior' cause a divorce.

You're pretty wrong too. Think about it, man.
 
Rappaccini said:
You're pretty wrong too. Think about it, man.
Do you have any statistics to back this up, or are you just basing it on stereotypes of male and female behavior?
 
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I do think men are more likely to cheat, but it's equally balanced when you add that women are much more likely to be incorrigable women who don't like to put out.
 
Nasor said:
This is another often-quoted but very misleading feminist statistic. When women and men do the same job and have the same level of education and experience they get paid almost exactly the same amount; the differences are statistically insignificant.

When searching the web for some statistics it seems the wage gaps quoted are pretty reflective of the reality. I tried to keep with .gov information because of the “misleading feminist statistic” implied.
http://www.dwd.state.wi.us/dwd/newsreleases/pdf/DWD_Labor_Day_Report_090202.pdf

At the bottom of this pdf doc, is wage by gender comparison. There is a huge difference in wage at the top of the list, which is the high end jobs. And Wisconsin tends to rate near the top in working women as a percentage of the population (also noted in this document).

This is an Iowa doc, but not a .gov
http://www.iowaworkforce.org/lmi/publications/genderwagestudy/genderwagestudy6.htm
The iowa statistics show a significant disparity at the top end.

This is new jersey. Again, the gap is obvious
http://www.state.nj.us/dep/dsr/sustainable-state/7.htm

I did find this one article at cnn which said this: "We found that if you control for male-female differences in experience and education, women earn 81 percent of what men earn," said Francine Blau of Cornell University. From this link:
http://www.cnn.com/2000/US/05/10/gender.bender/
The above link shows there are ways to crunch the numbers to lower this gap also, but question that method in the same article. They also do not indicate if these women who do achieve equal pay are raising children also.

I found no .gov doc that indicated equality across the board in gender / wage issues.

Nasor said:
Also, women are more likely to switch careers or take long breaks from their career, which means that they usually have less experience in any given job than their male counterparts. If you actually compare women to male colleagues who have the same level of education and experience, they make almost exactly the same amount.

This may be correct. But then, it is the women who have to leave their jobs for at least some time to take care of the kid(s). Is this the “long break from their career”? This is in most circumstances, the most logical method for the family to take.

Nasor said:
That's kind of a silly argument, since here we're talking about situations where both parents want to have custody.

So, because of parenthood, it is the woman who pays a price with “job experience”. And in custody issues, her “job experience” may be what holds the upper hand. While women do tend to get custody in cases of divorce with children, it is not impossible for men be awarded custody in the courts.

Does anyone know of any cases of a stay at home dad who has lost custody of the children in divorce?
 
milkweed said:
This is an Iowa doc, but not a .gov
http://www.iowaworkforce.org/lmi/publications/genderwagestudy/genderwagestudy6.htm
The iowa statistics show a significant disparity at the top end.
From your own link:

"Lower wages for females appear to be tied to the types of jobs that they hold. Although the female respondents are represented as well or better than the males in the managerial and professional occupational groups, they have a much stronger presence than males in the administrative support and service occupations. According to 1998 statewide wage data (obtained through the Occupational Employment Statistics survey), wages are substantially lower in these two broad occupational groups. Also, females are underrepresented in all of the production-related groups where wages tend to be higher."
The above link shows there are ways to crunch the numbers to lower this gap also, but question that method in the same article.
If by "ways to crunch the numbers" you mean "compare women to men who are doing the same job and have equal experience and education levels" then yes. They question the methodology of comparing men and women of equal experience and pay levels by suggesting that perhaps women can't get hired for the highest-paying jobs, but it would be easy to dredge up education statistics showing that male college students are usually far more likely than women to major in high-paying fields like engineering, finance/investment, and business administration, while women are more likely to major in low-paying fields like education or liberal arts.
This may be correct. But then, it is the women who have to leave their jobs for at least some time to take care of the kid(s). Is this the “long break from their career”? This is in most circumstances, the most logical method for the family to take.
You might be right about this, but it doesn't change the fact that women who take a long career break to raise their children are less experienced, and therefor less valuable to prospective employers.
So, because of parenthood, it is the woman who pays a price with “job experience”. And in custody issues, her “job experience” may be what holds the upper hand. While women do tend to get custody in cases of divorce with children, it is not impossible for men be awarded custody in the courts.

Does anyone know of any cases of a stay at home dad who has lost custody of the children in divorce?
You have a good point there. If the woman is usually the one who actually stays home and takes care of the kids, it would probably make sense for her to get custody.
 
§outh§tar said:
Women really are as likely. Ever hear of husband beaters? (shivers)

No, they aren't. It's not even close.

How could you possibly think that they were? It goes against all reason.

While women are less likely than men to be victims of violent crimes overall, women are 5 to 8 times more likely than men to be victimized by an intimate partner.
~Violence by Intimates: Analysis of Data on Crimes by Current or Former Spouses, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends, U.S. Department of Justice, March, 1998
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Approximately 95% of the victims of domestic violence are women.
~Bureau of Justice Statistics Special Report, U.S. Dept. of Justice
Source
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... that the overwhelming majority of domestic abuse is perpetrated by males against females. In 2002, incidents with a female victim and male perpetrator represented 90 per cent (32,300) of all incidents of domestic abuse...
Source

Nasor said:
Do you have any statistics to back this up, or are you just basing it on stereotypes of male and female behavior?

See above... and be reasonable.

As far as child abuse goes, female figures commit many of the more trivial crimes, often categorized as neglect, whereas male figueres commit the truly horrible ones.

Consider, if you will, the Ontario Incidence Study on Child Abuse and Neglect (OIS) chapter 4: Characteristics of maltreatment, p. 67, table 4.4a.
  • Physical abuse: investigated cases: mother 44%; father 41%; stepfather 13%

Source

Please also consider the sexual abuse incidence in this same study.
  • parent 4,953 (43.8%);
  • biological mother 312 (2.8%)
  • biological father 2,737 (24.2%)
  • stepfather 1321 (11.7%)
  • stepmother 70 (0.6)



Do not make me argue this simple point. It is intuitively and logically obvious that men should be more abusive and unfaithful than women.
 
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Is the vernacular too much for you, or can you not accept a self-evident and self-explanatory behavioral truth?

I refuse to wrestle with you over my use of the word "should". The very idea is puerile and purposeless.
Besides, it is a perfect usage, and its only sinister implications are those you imagined all on your lonesome.
 
Ok, Rappaccini, you've convinced me. Men are apparently a lot more violent than women.
 
Personally,

Working in the Justice system, i would have to say that the reason that the women seem to get "more" in divorces and the like is due to the infidelity and abuse of the man in the marriage. Statistically speaking, marriages break up due to a fault caused by the man (the staticstics are becoming more equal now with the power shift in the work place and the like). And talking to most men who are divorcing their wives, they dont WANT the responsibility of raising the children, therefore the majority of the assets go to the upkeep of the children. Also as stated before, women are seen more as the rearers of young rather than providers. Men also statisically make more than women. Hence the allimony payments...

just my two cents...
 
Nasor said:
From your own link:
"Lower wages for females appear to be tied to the types of jobs that they hold. ..snipped some..Also, females are underrepresented in all of the production-related groups where wages tend to be higher."
The questions used in the Iowa survey did not attempt to discover the causes of this. Here is the link to the actual questions asked in their query:
http://www.iowaworkforce.org/lmi/publications/genderwagestudy/genderwagestudy14.htm<P>
The cnn article indicated some potential reasons why females were underrepresented:
http://www.cnn.com/2000/US/05/10/gender.bender/

Nasor said:
If by "ways to crunch the numbers" you mean "compare women to men who are doing the same job and have equal experience and education levels" then yes. They question the methodology of comparing men and women of equal experience and pay levels by suggesting that perhaps women can't get hired for the highest-paying jobs, but it would be easy to dredge up education statistics showing that male college students are usually far more likely than women to major in high-paying fields like engineering, finance/investment, and business administration, while women are more likely to major in low-paying fields like education or liberal arts.
<P>From the cnn article linked above:
"We found that if you control for male-female differences in experience and education, women earn 81 percent of what men earn," said Francine Blau of Cornell University. <BR>&nbsp;
I think they are implying that all things being equal, the variable is still 19%.
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Here is where the statistics/method are called "questionable" from the same article:
"If, in addition, you control for occupation and industry, which could be somewhat questionable because employers decide who gets hired into what jobs, the figure rises up to 88 percent," Blau said. <BR>&nbsp;
The cnn article also includes reference to two studies done (see above link) that show there can be discriminatory practice in hiring. <BR>&nbsp;
Could this discrimination on the employer level be based on women have a higher chance of leaving the job to care for children? Maybe. It is at the hiring point that the employer has the most power to be hesitant based on these types of discriminatory practices, with little fear of retribution. Are females underrepresented in these higher paying groups due to their not getting a chance from the start? That would be much harder to prove and adjust statistics for. <BR>&nbsp;
My reason for responding to your original post was to show that its not "This is another often-quoted but very misleading feminist statistic". These are statistics that are pretty common across the board, no matter who does the math. Either adjusted statistic is not "statistically insignificant" The best gender/wage comparison that was adjusted for education/experience was still a 12% disparity. And the other was 19%. How would that affect you, all things being equal, if your co-worker made between 12% and 19% more each paycheck based on no apparent reason in job qualification/education/experience? And these are adjusted statistics. There is no indication as to whether these women who have acheived between a 12% and 19% loss are child free. The reported Average Wage disparity is still much higher from every .gov source I found. It seems to affect millions no matter what way you slice the pie.
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Are things better than they were? Yes they are. Are all things equal? Not yet.
Nasor said:
You have a good point there. If the woman is usually the one who actually stays home and takes care of the kids, it would probably make sense for her to get custody.
Thanks!
 
Well, Women have been found more likely to divorce in the first place

http://www.family.org/cforum/fnif/news/a0032829.cfm

For example, women are keen to tell the courts about their role as a 'home maker' - from looking after children, to organising decorators and architects.

In practise, this means that more women are applying for 'narrative affidavits' which gives them a better chance of describing their 'full' contribution to the marriage.

Wealthy women are also fairing much better in the divorce courts - now getting up to a 40% share of assets.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/business/1500573.stm


I was incidentally watching the news this morning and I saw something about men in divorces not wanting the women to get any of the money that goes to the kids. I will try to find a link for it if they post it on their website.
 
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