ripleofdeath,
you need to meet more women... those who are past the stage of basic self sexual awareness
maybe "they" would not care for your one size fits all type of approach
if you think all are the same then you will most likely only gravitate toward those who are receptive to your single minded aproach system..
it is not uncommon for some people to out grow there small community personality stereotype
it would be a sad thing for you to limit yourself to only those women who you feel fall below your perception to inspire and surprise you
You're right, but you have to remember that at this stage in life, many of the girls are just emerging from basic sexual awareness. Things will improve over the next few years, obviously, with bitches turning into good girls, and visa versa. But mostly the first (I hope).
Also -- I'm not as one-size-fits all as it might seem. I'm don't even follow half of my advice. At school, I dress comfortably. Not like the self-important prince image I might be sending. They're simple precautions - not to overdress, but to be clean and look self-respecting, (which IMO, is how all guys/girls should feel about themselves, and show in the way the dress.)
You know that womanizer from 'family guy'? He takes it to the point of stupidity and it makes it counteractive. Advising me against that is right, but I still thinks its a good idea to dress and act with respect to yourself.
Dearprudence,
I was under the impression that Xev said (and I can't be bothered to rummage thru where exactly) something about being aware of one's self, which is a whole lot more accurate than professing to know one's self unambiguously. Look, as you further life's experiences, you'll encounter brand new people and face brand new situations the likes of which you'd never dream existed -- and with these new encounters you'll also be faced with a you you never knew existed either... so you won't exactly be knowing yourself then or know how to initially react since nothing brand new would thus far be registered BUT you will continue to be aware of yourself, that is, if you know how...
Very true. There is plenty more development to go through, and I know that there is plenty of room for experiece. Xev won't like my metaphysical approach, but I like to think that everything will fall into place as time goes on. Learning the Kaballah also helps to reach higher points of self-awareness, and I've got a ways to go with that
Grade-school romances are hardly indicative of anything.
They allow you to observe the opposite sex in a more raw, up front state before the complexities build up - and this may seem unsual - but I've learned useful things from them.
What "prejudice overtones"?
An oversocialized Jew would see these things - a failure at romantic relationships, an aloofness and preference for solitude - as weaknesses.
He always had that anti-semetic, oliver-twist interpretation of a Jew or woman burned into his brain - just as I may have similar prejudices about women, and you, about Jews.
And another thing is that my personality is a strong 'INTP.' I don't see's those traits as weaknesses. They're my best qualities! Only when they're out of control and cause all sanity and judgement to swerve - like Nietzsche - will I see them as problems.
Unlike Nietzsche, I prefer solitude out of greater comfort, where he avoided people because of crazy trust issues and declining mental health. Nobody can deny that he was flawed. Still admirable that you try to defend 'Freddy' though
I always figured he'd be shy and rough, the sort of man who'd stroke your face and fuck you hard.
This might surprise you, but I am very much like that
Wrestling has given me a lot of thusting power. Shyness, also, as part of my personality.
Nonsense. The rest of your posts on this thread show an inordinate interest in learning manipulation - you are, after all, a Jew - how can you alter yourself so that women will like you, how can you alter yourself so that women will want to fuck you, how can you act so that women will want you.
Have you been paying any attention at all?
Its not getting women interested that I'm after. Its about being proactive and guarding myself against the dangers. I wear my sunglasses like a condom -- always vigilant, filtering out the dangerous UV radiation, trying to tell whats really beneath her skin...
You do realize that getting laid often is not an indicator of masculinity, especially if you act like a little bitch for that purpose?
Of course it isn't, just as it isn't an indicator of feminity. Its not all that healthy either.
As for the 'little bitch' part, read the last few lines of my response to rippleofdeath.
You're an aspiring womanizer....or so you say.
I was joking, hoping that you could tell the difference. In real life I wouldn't meet a stranger for sex. Let alone at the mikvah.
Do you like it when another man 'pins' you down with his strong arms?
Its rare that I wrestle someone with more strength than me, but when it does happen, I'm more concerned about turning to my stomach and then countering.
And to clear up your assumption -- the true homosexual(s) that I've wrestled don't do it to touch other men. Thats another common prejudice people have.
What dream, of creaming my pants while 'wrestling' a virile young man?
*Hahaha* -- no. I know what you're suggesting and I can guarantee you that I'm not interested in members of the same sex. On the other hand, wrestling attractive women/females/girls (whatever you want to call them,) is always a treat.
I'm the same age as you, and I have to say I wouldn't call myself a "man" in the strictest sense. Technically if you just follow the dictionary, yes I suppose I qualify. But I'd like to take the defintion of man as being "an adult male". And adult - by the dictionary - means "fully developed". Yeah yeah, I've gone through puberty and all that shite so technically I'm developed...
Aside from the fact that I am an early bloomer with some unique circumstances --
I know what you're saying. And for a while, I wondered how anybody could ever become a man if it means full development and maturity. As in the way Jack (from fight club, if we're to use that as an example) thinks of himself as a 30year old boy having wasted so much of his life in empty materialism. Bar Mitzvah wise, and to me anyways, its about the level of awareness I have to my limits and what I can make of them. Because I'll never be fully developed or mature.
We shouldn't waste time aspiring to goals of perfection that we'll never reach...as in how later on in the movie - on the bus - they say that 'a real man doesn't look like that.' I could be a few inches taller, and a few IQ points stronger. They're but empty numbers.
To break it down, I've considered myself a man since the day I popped out of my moms loins. My synogogue since I was 13, and Canada when I turn 18. I have a long ways to go in terms of maturity and development. And chances are that Xev, yourself have even more experience than I do.
I'm pretty sure I have growth left. Maybe you really are that much different than every other teenager I've ever met, but I haven't seen a single thing on this board that's shown that.
Again, most growth is very superficial. Things like emotional toughness take years to gain, as opposed to the development of complex emotions that you can get at 13 and never 'outgrow'. Being able to cope relative to everyone else in the world takes a lot of conditioning. In the real world, its wisdom and experience that is measured to IQ and stamina to height. Theres still plenty to learn
Of course being a Jew, with my pre-developed cunning and genetically programmed manipulation skills of the stock market and women, this should be no problem.
Maybe you really are that much different than every other teenager I've ever met, but I haven't seen a single thing on this board that's shown that.
Conditioning wise, coming from a middle class home as you probably do, we're all within a certain threshold. I'm not unique by that definition.
Ever gotten in a real fight? Where someone's actually trying to break bones in your body? Or had a gun held to your head?
I bet you've only lived out that fantasy in highschool wrestling/martial arts.
You should know first, that I only used that statement to protect myself from Xev's Tyler-Durdening of me, since she pictures me to be some materialistic puppy.
But to answer your question - its been a long time, and I usually go out of my way to avoid those things.
The last time was in grade 6, for a very dumb reason, and it was no match since puberty gave me a head start (he was a year older BTW.)
But other than that, I consider streetfighting - the lust to hurt someone - as stupid and pointless. My biggest fear is that I could unintentionally kill someone streetfighting, with one punch in the right spot. I'll only do it in self-defense.
Besides that, I've never had a gun to my head.
You?
High school wrestling is another thing altogether. First -- its the most dignified, cerebral, unbarbaric sport I've come across - ever- and second, its physically draining. Its always constructive, and always pushing you to new levels. After a match, I usually find myself discussing technique and mistakes with a guy that I just kicked the shit out of - Like we're buddies or something. Like fight club - because they're not gangs, but chums.
Its one of the oldest and most respected sports for a reason.
Streetfighting is the opposite. Cheapness pays, you do not need a brain - as long as you have a piece of metal or a gun, and theres nothing dignified about it. I couldn't stoop to that level.
