What have you learned about women?

The less you care to get them, the more they care to get you.

I've gone through spurts of having three or more girls very happily offering up (I'm seventeen), and only recently I've noticed that every one of these spurts comes when I have stopped wanting a girl, stopped trying to get a girl and couldn't give two shits how I act in front of a girl. For the most part, I'm the jackass that people talk about when they say "nice guys finish last".

When I don't care about getting a girl I basically act as I do with men - everything I say/do is either for intellectual purposes or t find/enjoy humour. So a joke I make may have me look like nothing more than an asshole to one girl - but to her friend it some how makes her attracted to me. If I understood this any less I'd be completely useless. So far I haven't figured it out, I'm just rolling with it.

Point is - never look like you're trying. If you're trying, they know they don't have to try.

IMPORTANT: This only pertains to getting women! Once you have a girlfriend you care about, obviously you just act naturally and let her know you are trying to make her happy. Just always always always act naturally. Whether it's pre-girlfriend (when you just act like your natural, not-trying-to-get-laid self), or during a girlfriend.
 
Well...thats only true up to a point. If you want to move beyond the 'friends' stage, it's usually the male that has to initiate things. Unless these women are really horny.
 
Cats

Originally posted by Tyler
The less you care to get them, the more they care to get you.
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I do agree with Tyler and i also think that women and CATS are very similar. For me men are like dogs and women are cats.

I also think that we can not come up with a generalization of women here. They are all different..cats
 
"Well...thats only true up to a point. If you want to move beyond the 'friends' stage, it's usually the male that has to initiate things. Unless these women are really horny."

If by 'initiate' you mean make the two inch jump from almost kissing to making out - then yes I'd agree. But the majority of the times that fall into the category of what I was talking about, the girl has very readily made every move up until the last one even if I didn't give a single positive response. Women, I find, in the majority, do not really want a guy to do everything he can to get her. It looks sad and pathetic. And this isn't just women, if a girl is desperatly trying to get me it does look a little unattractive.
 
What I Learned About Women
by BigBlueHead

I learned that people try to categorize women and make general statements about them, as if this was insightful. They will say things like women like it when you are honest with them, as if men generally prefer liars. They will say women enjoy kissing and cuddling and sex, as if there was any group of people who did not. They say women like a neat guy who dresses well - but do you usually go after scummy girls? They say women go after you more when you have a girlfriend or are not acting like a drooling sex zombie - but back in high school most of the girls you pined after were other people's girlfriends (that's why you were pining after them usually).

Then they come out and say "Men are like dogs and women are like cats." I always thought that this went well with a line I heard once from a cats vs. dogs book - "Dogs are like bourbon and branchwater. Cats are like wine spritzers." Because you read it and think "WTF are you talking about?"

Do women hide under the furniture? Do they eat your goldfish? Do they bite your ankle when you don't clean their litterbox? Um, no. Women are actually nothing like cats; neither are men. Nor are men or women like dogs.

We share a couple of characteristics, like enjoying being in groups (which both dogs and cats do...), desiring comfort, pursuing food and sex as important goals. Breathing oxygen, having two eyes...
 
Women have mastery over the subtle use of power, men are no match.

~Raithere
 
Originally posted by Raithere
Women have mastery over the subtle use of power, men are no match.

~Raithere
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If they didn't think through their dicks then they would be.
 
BigBlueHead
- but do you usually go after scummy girls?
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Every time!! I LOVE them..

Raithere
Women have mastery over the subtle use of power, men are no match.
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I couldn't agree more... Especially the scummy ones.

sargentlard
If they didn't think through their dicks then they would be.
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True, so true. I recall a quote something like, "God graced me with two heads but cursed me with only enough blood to run one." :D
 
With regard to personal ads:

Women who describe themselves as "sassy" are usually fat.
 
what have I learned about women

women think with their heads,
guys with their dick, :D

theres girls,theres women and theres ladies
theres yes,no and maybe,
maybe means NO,;)

women expect men to know what they think,
women like slow long foreplay,

women like honesty,just dont tell them they are fat,no matter how heavy they are.

even young girls are way more mature than boys.
 
Originally posted by fireguy_31
"God graced me with two heads but cursed me with only enough blood to run one...
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...at a time."

I always love these threads!

zanknet,
You do realize (I hope) that the responses in threads like these reveal very little to nothing about women, right?
All they reveal is information about the people that are responding to it.


If anyone tells you how to catch women, understand women or keep women happy, not only are they likely full of shit, but you shouldn't listen to them anyway.

The only thing women "look for" in men is what makes them happy.
What will make a woman happy varies widely from woman to woman.
If you try and be what this woman or that one wants you to be neither of you will be happy.
You should simply be honest and be yourself.
If X woman does not like the person you are, she will not be happy with you and you will not be happy with her.

Which would you rather be with...
A woman who you like, appreciate, respect, adore and are happy to be with...
Or a woman who is pretending to be those things?

I think that is what most men are missing.
They don't give women much credit and think they can fool women into thinking they are something that they are not.
Women aren't that damned stupid, and the ones that are... why would you want them?

A lot of people say that women are attracted to confidence.
You know what?
So are men.
You know what else?
No matter how good of a player/actor you are, you can not fake confidence in yourself if you are not being yourself and there is nothing less attractive and more pathetic than false confidence and cockiness.
Yes women do like confidence (as a general rule) that doesn't mean they like loud-mouthed cocky macho assholes (a LOT of people fail to make that distinction).
They like men that HAVE confidence, not DISPLAY confidence and wear it like a badge.
How do you HAVE confidence?
There is only one way.
Be who you are, be honest with yourself and others and respect yourself for who you are.
It really is as simple as that.
 
What will make a woman happy varies widely from woman to woman.
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True, and you're right about what it boils down to. But evolutionarily, there are certain uncontrolable factors that the majority of women prefer. -- Darwinian something or other. Those factors are universal, between sexes and species.
 
Originally posted by Xerxes
True, and you're right about what it boils down to. But evolutionarily, there are certain uncontrolable factors that the majority of women prefer. -- Darwinian something or other. Those factors are universal, between sexes and species.
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Granted, but the point was, why should that matter?
Would you want a woman to want you for who you are or for her to want you because of who you are pretending to be?
 
Pretending to care about appearance is better than not caring at all, I find. Especially with women.

And what about changing something which you are indifferent to? - such as the shoe colour white (which I've always preferred anyways,) or combing your hair once in a while and daring to be different from the typical neanderthalic man? Or how about smelling good because you feel more masculine?

Women don't necessarily respond to the individual things like shoes or combed hair, but what they represent: A real man that cares about himself. Once you start caring about your appearance, you feel better.
 
I never said that you shouldn't try to improve yourself or make you a better person.
Quite the contrary, in fact.
That is often what is required in order for you to start respecting and having confidence in yourself.

By you should only change those things if YOU want to change them for YOU.
 
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