Xelasnave.1947
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I blame Hollywood.
Alex
Alex
Agreed. Although around here, losing his job would NOT be very doubtful; someone who continually harasses people for any reason (based on their sex, religion, race etc) would get maybe two chances before being shown the door. However, I realize that every place isn't like San Diego.Also, consider your example. Suppose this manager does this and one day he is called out on it--either formally, by a higher-up, or informally. As far as "consequences" are concerned, what's really gonna happen to this guy? Probably pretty much nothing: he will be informed that his actions are inappropriate and that's about it. Supposing he continues to act in this manner? Then, he might get some sort of formal reprimand--or, in the most extreme of instances, he might lose his job (though highly doubtful). Or, he will learn that such behavior is inappropriate, and even threatening, and will change his ways.
Well, but keep in mind that that's based on a technicality (statute of limitations has expired.) Were Spacey to do that to someone today, the accuser would not likely remain silent for years - and he would indeed end up in court.And, insofar as "ruining lives" is concerned, none of those guys--the Moores, the Weinsteins, and the Spaceys--is likely to experience any legal repercussions.
Hollywood is merely a reflection of the rest of the US, rendered in technicolor.I blame Hollywood.
Alex
I have, right or wrong, formed that impression.Hollywood is merely a reflection of the rest of the US, rendered in technicolor.
Yo, troll.See, here's the thing - people like Bells keep going on and on about "how can groping someone who doesn't want to be groped" be "accidental". It's classic reductio ad absurdum fallacy. Physical touching isn't the only thing claimed to be sexual harassment - hell, Bells pulled in "leering", yet at the same time, we are to completely ignore the intent of the "perpetrator".
Instead of relying on the every day, you keep pulling out some of these fantastic hypothetical's. At this point, I need to ask, are you simply trying to find a way where a man can just get away with it? Looking at all the unlikely scenarios? Because that would be the only explanation for your using such hypothetical's that makes sense.Well, what about someone who is sitting in a cafeteria, staring into space as he contemplates a particularly challenging issue he is working on, and just happens to be looking in the general direction of a woman who decided to wear a somewhat low-cut shirt that day, and she takes offense to it, thinking he is "leering" at her breasts? She goes to HR and files a complaint - poor guy gets called into the HR office for sexual harassment, and hasn't the foggiest idea what is going on.
A silly example? Of course it is - but stupid shit happens, and people take things both out of context and in the wrong way all the time. If we are going to make the rules and laws absolute, we have to be certain that there is no room for error; otherwise, not only do we risk ruining the lives of people who haven't done anything wrong, but we also risk having those laws challenged and overturned in a court of law due to how generalized they are.
Oh hey, change of subject. How strange and unusual.Obviously we will never get it 100% perfect... but a well thought out plan would seem better than going off half cocked (after all, look at what just happened in the Senate - Their rushed tax bill just accidentally killed all corporate deductions by setting the AMT at the same level as the normal corporate tax rate. Oops!)
The people writing the laws aren't perfect, and a shoddy hack job of a law will do far more damage than it would fix.
Which is why pretty much most organisations have staff training before they start working, to prevent this sort of thing.I worked for a manager like that - forget what country he was originally from, but he complimented damn near everyone on just about anything; genuinely nice guy, always wanted to make sure his employees were happy, that sort of thing. A few employees found it highly unnerving, and one was downright afraid of him - eventually a few of us went and talked with him about it, to let him know that while he wasn't doing anything "wrong" per se, it was being taken the wrong way and that he might want to rethink his approach.
Needless to say, he was mortified to learn he had made some of his subordinates upset, and was even more upset to find out they didn't feel like they could safely tell him this themselves.
He withdrew a lot after that, and ended up leaving the company not long after; his replacement was a douchebag and resulted in most of the experienced employees jumping ship for greener pastures.
He is trying to find excuses and ways to blame the victim for apparently 'ruining the lives of good men' or something along those lines. The whole exercise and the attempts to find ways in which it is not sexual harassment, with the various hypothetical's (that yes, are stupid and so out there that it reads like a bad comedy skit) is to protect the accused. It's either that or he's trying to figure out how a guy can harass and get away with it.If it is stupid, why make a hypothetical argument?
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Well, if you admit your argument was stupid from the get go, what does that say about the people wanting to agree with you?
I stopped watching most television when I realized what it was dumping in my lap.Hollywood is merely a reflection of the rest of the US, rendered in technicolor.
That's not quite how it's been working out, so far. Compare your two examples - Moore and Spacey. Their lives are not likely to be affected equivalently, or proportionately to their respective offenses.Point being (also, this isn't directed towards you, specifically, as you've not talked of consequences), this talk of "ruining (people's) lives" is kind of a strawman. The guy who compliments women on their appearance constantly isn't gonna become a social pariah, he's highly unlikely to lose his job, and there won't be any legal consequences. The people whose lives are being "ruined" have repeatedly--and with much deliberation--preyed upon women (and girls (Moore) and boys (Spacey)).
Instead of "not all men" employed as some kind of demand for impossible perfection in the law before taking action or a disingenuous pretense of victimization, how about "male burden equivalent to female burden" as one criteria for evaluation? Right now men - guilty or "innocent" - are getting off very lightly on average, and white men even more exempt, from the burdens imposed by sexual harassment and assault. And they are running the show. So evening out the burdens - innocent men bearing burdens more nearly equivalent to those borne by innocent women - seems like a potential approach. Having the burdens borne by those in a position to do something about them seems hopeful, for starters. It was Golda Meier, iirc, who once pointed in this direction, when confronted with a proposal to deal with increasing rape rates by putting a curfew on women: put a curfew on the men, she recommended. The women already bear the risk, the men can bear the restriction.
So one recommendation for the confused and beleaguered man who cannot figure out how to avoid harassing the women in his vicinity might be to mirror their behavior. Don't initiate anything, don't do anything, you don't see from them. Discipline your behavior as they discipline theirs - same burden of courtesy and forbearance.