But what if your claim was that you wanted to bring that person into the marriage? Would that be ok then?
No, I wouldn't want to marry someone very promiscuous.
What if you found someone that moved you, someone that took your breath away, and were already married to three other people? I know this can happen in monogamous marriages, but that usually ends in affairs or divorces. Would you divorce your group, or would you bring them in? What if they didn't agree with it.
In the monogamy model, it is a central tenet that the situation you describe is inherently bad. You are not supposed to experience such attraction once married. Obviously, this is unrealistic - perfect soulmates are the stuff of fairytales and the extraordinarily lucky few.
There are limited responses to this situation in the monagamous model - clandestine affair, separation, or self denial. Acknowledgement that the situation even exists is frowned upon. If your spouse becomes aware of the situation, they will feel threatened and demeaned.
In the polygamous model, all the previous options remain, with the addition of marriage expansion. Acknowledgement of the situation is encouraged, current spouse/s will not feel as threatened, and will be more inclined to be supportive (that's what spouses are for). Naturally, marriage expansion is not something to be entered into lightly, and must be a unanimous decision.
marriage at all? Why not just be committed in your own minds. That's all you need. Tell your friends, tell your family, have a party. But why make it known to the gov't? They don't care. Unless your out for a tax reduction.
Because if I'm making a lifelong commitment to someone, I want legal backing if they decide to run out.
Could you tell me what highly looked upon biblical man had more than one wife? I mean, I could be wrong, I admit that openly. I would just like to see it for myself.
Try a keyword search on 'wives' at
www.biblegateway.org.
I IN a couple of minutes I came up with Solomon, David, Jacob, many miscellaneous kings and minor parties, as well as several laws in Deuteronomy regarding multiple wives.