paddoboy:
My approach despite what slant you see fit to put on it, with regards to how I address a shop assistant whose name I do not know, will continue, as that is the pedant that I am referring to. The same as if I appraoch a male assistant, I'll say hey excuse me mate.
You're nothing if not consistent, even when it comes to sexism. I didn't really expect that you would take any of this on board.
There is a tendency to appeal to "tradition" when it comes to stuff like this, and the old are more susceptible to that than the young. It's hard to recognise that just because things have always been a certain way, it doesn't mean that's the right thing. It's even harder when it involves coming to a realisation that you, yourself are at fault. It is even harder when that realisation means that you need to make some changes to yourself. We're all inclined to think of ourselves as good people with good intentions. But that's not enough.
It brings me back to this:
paddoboy said:
And I can assure you, and bet my short n curlies, that the simple things like calling a bloke a mate, or a female shop assistant "love" will continue, even when this old bastard kicks the bucket and my generation has passed on. It really is the height of pedantic stupidity to complain about it..
Dial things back a few decades and you would have heard exactly the same kind of talk from men about other things:
"Mark my words! You can bet your short and curlies, sonny, that the simple things like only men having the vote, or women keeping the house while the men go out to earn a living, will continue long after I kick the bucket and my generation has passed on. It really is the height of pedantic stupidity to complain about it. Obviously, women aren't equipped to have a say in who governs us, and a woman's place is in the kitchen. Everybody knows that."
I don't really care that much James. I live in the real world.
I know you don't care. You've lived in a world in which sexism has been the norm for so long that you've come to think that this is the only way it can be - indeed that this is how it should be. Besides, your in the privileged group that that has always benefited from this arrangement, so why would you be motivated to change anything?
While we're on that subject, I might remind you that I, too, live in the real world. So does the women who showed you how to find your olive oil. You and your attitudes are part of her daily lived experience.
Count it anyway you like, it will continue, not just my generation, but following generations. Reason? Because it is simply over the top pedantic stupidity for anyone to object to such.
Not for anyone. Just for you, as a representative of a certain class of sexist old men.
I worked for QANTAS James for 14 years, and at one time when all this political correctness was the 'in thing" we got instructions from top management that we were to stop calling manhole covers, manhole covers and call them access or person holes. The union laughed off such stupidity and we had the support of first line management. Needless to say the nonsense was withdrawn.
I see. You regard speaking out about sexual harassment as just another case of political correctness gone mad. Which is really just another way of saying you're opposed to treating people decently if it suits you not to.
Wrong again, I rung up the manager because she went out of her way to put me on the right track and deserved a compliment.
How many times have you rung the manager to praise the male employees at the supermarket? You know, because they deserve a compliment. I'm really interested to know.
Don't knnow JAMES...I hope she got a raise?
Like I said, no ability to put yourself in her shoes.
Your hypotheticals are yours to dream up James.
It would be great if this kind of thing was just a hypothetical, but incidents just like the one you describe, involving men who are just like you, happen all over the place, all the time. Perhaps you should ask your wife about her experiences of unwanted attention from men. Because, I'm confident she'll have had some.