As your elder, pulling rank means nothing in regards to discovering the truth. What I posted above are the facts. Our government county health services department puts out a brochure, especially geared toward the education of our young'uns and their health. It specifically states that HIV is transmitted through "semen, blood, and vaginal secretions." This was further varied numerous times through my indepth discussion with one of the specialists at the United States Government Center for Disease Control (CDC), also see below. She also told: "not just semen, but also the preseminal fluid that comes out before ejaculation." They have an extensive database of most all - possibly all - research done in areas of transmittable disease. Again, anyone can call them toll-free at 1-800-342-2437.
Suprisingly to me, the CDC's website also states that the HIV virus is found in small quantities in saliva! But no proof [yet] that it can be transmitted that way:
"HIV has been found in saliva and tears in very low quantities from some AIDS patients. It is important to understand that finding a small amount of HIV in a body fluid does not necessarily mean that HIV can be transmitted by that body fluid. HIV has not been recovered from the sweat of HIV-infected persons. Contact with saliva, tears, or sweat has never been shown to result in transmission of HIV."
"Although HIV has been transmitted between family members in a household setting, this type of transmission is very rare. These transmissions are believed to have resulted from contact between skin or mucous membranes and infected blood."
"Kissing: Casual contact through closed-mouth or "social" kissing is not a risk for transmission of HIV. Because of the potential for contact with blood during "French" or open-mouth kissing [greater risk of breaking the linings of mucous membranes in the mouth], CDC recommends against engaging in this activity with a person known to be infected. However, the risk of acquiring HIV during open-mouth kissing is believed to be very low. CDC has investigated only one case of HIV infection that may be attributed to contact with blood during open-mouth kissing."
http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/pubs/facts/transmission.htm
"Can I get HIV from oral sex?
Yes, it is possible for either partner to become infected with HIV through performing or receiving oral sex. There have been a few cases of HIV transmission from performing oral sex on a person infected with HIV. While no one knows exactly what the degree of risk is, evidence suggests that the risk is less than that of unprotected anal or vaginal sex.
If the person performing oral sex has HIV, blood from their mouth may enter the body of the person receiving oral sex through:
1) the lining of the urethra (the opening at the tip of the penis);
2) the lining of the vagina or cervix;
3) the lining of the anus; or
4) directly into the body through small cuts or open sores.
If the person receiving oral sex has HIV, their blood, semen (cum), pre-seminal fluid (pre-cum), or vaginal fluid may contain the virus. Cells lining the mouth of the person performing oral sex may allow HIV to enter their body.
The risk of HIV transmission increases:
1) if the person performing oral sex has cuts or sores around or in their mouth or throat;
2) if the person receiving oral sex ejaculates in the mouth of the person performing oral sex; or
3) if the person receiving oral sex has another sexually transmitted disease (STD).
Not having (abstaining from) sex is the most effective way to avoid HIV.
If you choose to perform oral sex, and your partner is male, use a latex condom on the penis; or if you or your partner is allergic to latex, plastic (polyurethane) condoms can be used. Studies have shown that latex condoms are very effective, though not perfect, in preventing HIV transmission when used correctly and consistently. If either partner is allergic to latex, plastic (polyurethane) condoms for either the male or female can be used. For more information about latex condoms, see "Male Latex Condoms and Sexually Transmitted Diseases."
If you choose to have oral sex, and your partner is female, use a latex barrier (such as a natural rubber latex sheet, a dental dam or a cut-open condom that makes a square) between your mouth and the vagina. A latex barrier such as a dental dam reduces the risk of blood or vaginal fluids entering your mouth. Plastic food wrap also can be used as a barrier.
If you choose to perform oral sex with either a male or female partner and this sex includes oral contact with your partners anus (analingus or rimming), use a latex barrier (such as a natural rubber latex sheet, a dental dam or a cut-open condom that makes a square) between your mouth and the anus. Plastic food wrap also can be used as a barrier."
http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/pubs/faq/faq19.htm
If you would like more information or have personal concerns, call CDC-INFO 24 Hours/Day at 1-800-CDC-INFO (1-800-232-4636), 1-888-232-6348 (TTY).
The General Information HIV/AIDS website is at:
http://www.cdc.gov/hiv