My papers for the ether theory of gravity
http://arxiv.org/abs/gr-qc/0205035 and if its viable near black holes
http://arxiv.org/abs/1003.1446
for the ether explanation of the SM
http://arxiv.org/abs/0912.3892
GR makes no sense if you take off the concept of spacetime (you are questioning spacetime interpretation of GR), but in the very next statement you make a claim that "GR in the Ether interpretation is Ok"...... Please note that there is absolutely no ambiguity about GR spacetime interpretation and it debunks ether, right or wrong. I feel what you trying to do is while maintaining maths, you are bringing in Ether....
I don't understand your point. In SR, we have two interpretations - the spacetime interpretation and the Lorentz interpretation. They differ. So, one rejects the other. But they have exactly the same math.
In GR, it is a little bit more complex. Roughly, there are the same two interpretations. They differ, and each rejects the other. The math is almost the same, but no longer exactly the same. In variant 1, which I name Lorentz interpretation of the Einstein equations, the equations of GR, the Einstein equations, remain untouched. But some solutions of these equations are rejected, in particular those with nontrivial topology and with closed causal loops. (My ether theory is yet another step away from this interpretation of the Einstein equations, it modifies the equations a little bit.)
But where you see a logical fallacy I do not understand. I use from GR the equations, and the physical predictions about clocks and rulers and so on. I reject the spacetime interpretation and propose another one. This requires even some modifications of the math - I introduce harmonic coordinates, which are nice coordinates but otherwise irrelevant in GR spacetime, as a new physical equation, introduce new objects (absolute space and time) with equations for them, so this is, of course, essentially another theory, even if the same Einstein equations are used.
I agree that ether theory doesn't have quantization problems relative to QM. However, this is because it does not produce any mathematical description of physical events. That ether theory cannot do relevant physics is not an advantage overall.
Why do you think so? It produces mathematics. It produces the standard quantum GR mathematics where GR is quantized as a field theory in harmonic gauge, which works fine. It is, of course, non-renormalizable - but renormalizability is a property which is not expected for a large distance approximation, for an effective field theory. It presupposes, by construction, some atomic ether, and the atomic distance of the ether is, of course, the critical distance where quantum ether theory fails, in the same way as quantum continuous condensed matter theory fails.
Great. However, we still need to do all of physics. When your theory can be used to do physics, then we can start considering it.
The formulas for local energy and momentum tensors you find in the paper.
You may have got the wrong end of the modus tolens you are attempting. Your ideas of causality and realism may be incorrect. As many people have pointed out, Bell's Inequalities have more to do with the notion of separability than either causality or realism.
Of course, as any physical theory and physical principle, causality and realism may be wrong. So what? The point is that if you reject the ether, you have to give up causality (with Reichenbach's common cause) as well as realism. This is without any choice. What many people think does not change this fact.
And, by the way, to give up Reichenbach's common cause is giving up an important part of the scientific method - the search for causal explanations of observed correlations. The tobacco industry would favor it, they would no longer have to care about some correlations of smoking and whatever. Correlations shmorrelations, so what? And without realism, we do no longer have to search for realistic explanations of what we observe at all. So, let's observe if the claims of astrologist's about correlations between planets and events in human lifes exist or not. This is a nice experimental question, and about realistic causal explanations we no longer have to care. Of course, this is overexaggeration, I know we will continue to search for causal realistic explanations. But there will be, obviously, some special domains, of special science, where this is no longer allowed.