cole grey said:
WES -
re: faith (blind faith vs. strong faith)
What I see as your problem is that you're calling mind static. I'll show you what I mean. Maybe we're both doing kind of the opposite of one another.
Please correct me if I am wrong, but from what I understand you have a wife and child (or children).
No correction required. Two kids, 2 and 4, girls, wonderful.
If you didn't have faith that your wife loved you would you act differently than you act toward her now?
Yes, a little at least. I'd probably be bummed out. I'd be nice to her, but I'm nice to people that don't piss me off. When I'm pissed, I'm not as nice... When I get over being pissed, I'm nice again. So some of the time I'm an asshole, but most of the time I'm a pretty nice guy. I'm a jokester. Ha. Ha ha. People get a kick out of me and I them. My point is however, I change. I might have faith now. Maybe not so much later. It depends on my stimulous, context, etc.
You have faith in your love for her (I assume), partly because you have faith in her love for you.
It's mostly because of how she acts towards me, and that we have children. It's one hell of a bond. I saw her give birth to both my children. She's my family. There's no reason to doubt that, as I live it every day. It's sweeter than it is annoying, so I feel pretty lucky.
I'm not saying you have reason to doubt that your wife is in love with you, but if you ever doubted would that make you faithless?
How could it not? If I doubt it, that's a poor excuse for faith. At that time, it would be something other than faith. Maybe it would come back, maybe not.. but if I were to question it, I wouldn't think it faith at all. More like a question.
While you were doubting her love for you, would you act as if she did or did not love you?
It's hard not to love me, you beautiful bastard. LOL. Yeah okay well I'd act differently than I had prior to that yes, as I'd likely be quite disturbed that a I suspected a family member had jumped ship. Again that doesn't mean I'd be intentionally cruel, but I'd certainly be disturbed.
Your faith in your marriage is partly her choice and partly your choice.
I really don't see it as a choice. It just is. We have children. We can't not have had children together, thus we're family. You can't choose your family once they're part of your family. The idea of choice is in this context actually seems pretty ridiculous to me. I can't undo what is done and if I could, I wouldn't. Choice is simply innapplicable.
Sure, people can choose to pretend they didn't accept someone as family, but that would be a lie. It would be inconsistent with what they themselves know to be true. That's where nuerosis and mental jacked-upedness comes from.
It is dependent on belief, but does not have to be entirely free of doubt for you to remain faithful to her.
I disagree. You're lumping it all together and I'm talking about one's state in time. You either have faith now, or you don't.
Our comprehension of it obviously differs. The way I see it, there is only right now. Later will be now too, if it comes.
Blind faith is not accessible to everyone, but strong faith is accessible to someone who has doubts.
I think that's simply incorrect. The momentum of your earlier faith may catch up with you, but while you're doubting it... I don't see how you call that faith.
I will go one step further and say that if you had never had any reason to doubt, whether it was from her behavior or just from seeing that other people on earth are capable of infedelity etc., your faith would be less complete.
That is an odd way to see it to me. I have blind faith that my wife is my family because she is. I don't worry about infedelity because I know her, and I'm just not really a worrier. If she does, I'll deal with it... but until then or some signs I should be suspicious... I'll cut her some slack. For chrissake she needs it, as even sweet precious girls are incredibly trying.
Complete in the sense of being multidimensional, that is.
What the shit is
that supposed to mean? What do you know of my dimensions? My relationship to my wife is layered in my history.. layered in my experiences... layered in my concepts, the way I view the world. How can all that not be wrapped up in the way I see my family?
It would be less strong if it had nothing that could possibly oppose it.
That is the most twisted shit I've ever heard. Hehe. Are you serious? Maybe you're trying to use some kind of growth idea? It couldn't be more strong if nothing could oppose it... right? Maybe you just got backwards for a minute.
It could be more blindly accepted though.
It can't be blind to me if I lived it and have access to it in my mind as part of myself. That's the opposite of blind.
I still wholeheartedly reject your idea that blind faith is the only faith.
I never said that. Perhaps you understand what I mean more clearly after this post.
I have many songs to sing, not "just one".
Yes but do you have style or rythm?
You keep singing
that song though.. don't you? I suppose it
is part of your you.. however imaginary a part it is.
You don't have to suspend your belief in an ultimate "why" to try to figure out how things work.
Well then you wouldn't really be honest in your endeavor. You'd be looking to back up your premise. You know, like theists
must necessarily do?
Your supposition here is incorrect.
Obviously, we disagree. You cannot have faith in god and question it if you're truly prepared to accept the answer "I don't know" or "no". If you think you can, you're simply a lying to you. I think I owe me more than that.
If we get past these two things above, maybe we can approach the use of God for reasoning.
We cannot get past it as long as you can't accept the possibility that god doesn't exist, or that you can't know that god exists. If you accept it those things however, you've taken my position and your faith would have to be put somewhere else... like for instance, in reason. I don't really think our dispute is really about a lack of faith... it's about where you put it.
You've chosen to put yours in a circle in your mind.
You claim to know the omnipotent. I think it's about your ego. I think you need something like the idea of god to prop yourself upon, in order than you not feel small... in order that your ego not sink to despair. The question that brings to mind is the most important question I can think of...
Why aren't
you enough for you?
Perhaps I'm being far to presumptuous. I really don't know you at all... but that's the line of reasoning that came to mind. I'm sure you'll straighten me out where I've errored.
I truly feel lucky to be alive and me. I guess I'd have never missed it had I not existed, but I do... so I might as well enjoy the ride. I hope you enjoy yours too.. even if jesus is your co-pilot.