Ethical dilemma

He's burnt out on it now. The stress triggered some kind of latent schizoaffective disorder.

Ironically, we both went through a similar thing with a mutual friend a couple years ago.
 
Then not a full-time job... even just a few hours a week, part-time, would be better than nothing and may help build back confidence in his life. Not trying would leave him exactly where he is.
 
But I'm autistic, too, and I can't handle him living here, especially not with his raving. It affects my life in many negative ways.
 
Sure, they deal with fuck ups all the time. I just envision a "Full Metal Jacket" scenerio. Easy Leonard, take it easy man!
 
He's your friend, not your dependant or child. If he's affecting your life that badly, then you have every right to push him on his way. The fact that it's the Army he'd be going towards is tragic, but there seems to be nothing for it since he's been unable to find a better job. Has he been seriously looking? As his friend, you've given him a nice haven to sit back in the meantime between jobs, but that complacency might be making him less willing to seriously look for a job. Maybe delivering an ultimatum will give him greater incentives to look harder at what he needs to do if he wants to be back on track.
 
It's the Navy, but you're right. He wasn't seriously looking. Tragically, the one response he got from a hardware store was lost in my voicemail when my phone stopped working last Thanksgiving. I finally called in from my new cell phone a month later, but by then it was too late.
 
Sorry, the Navy.

Why were you calling them back? He should be the one talking to them, little things like this matter I think because he'd feel a sense of control over him making his life work better. Don't baby him.
 
Like I said, my phone service went out at just the wrong time. The call I referred to was only calling my voicemail to get the message.
 
Judging by your description of your friend's behavior, the Navy probably isn't the solution. Have you tried giving him an ultimatum, say, telling him he has one month to find something or he's on his own? It might just motivate him to look harder.
 
He's joining the army. The ultimatum was his idea, he is determined to leave as soon as possible. He's not oblivious to the situation. Now that he has a course of action, he seems to be doing better, he's doing PT in the mornings with the recruiters, going for runs, quit the :m:. He might get a signing bonus, so he can pay me back, maybe even include some rent for all the time he spent at my house...
 
I wish him luck, Spider. The army (military) has turned many misdirected young men into responsible adults able to handle the complexities of life without falling apart or going into depression, etc (or turning into wimps!).

Baron Max
 
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