Bells
Staff member
I don't think it is being eradicated. I think it is being redefined. The concept of the "family unit" which in the past had included a mother, father and children is now but one aspect of what we term the "family unit".1. Is the family unit really being "eradicated" in the West?
Marriage as a concept is a relationship between two people and thus, should be taken seriously. But the concept of a "marriage" is no longer restricted to a couple exchanging vows. Relationships where a couple (of whatever gender) decide to live together as though marriage should also be taken seriously.2. Why is it important to take the "concept of marriage" seriously?
It is bad in the sense that couples are no longer willing to try to work things out to a certain extent. But the flip side of that coin is that people can now end destructive and/or abusive relationships a lot more easily. I think we are still enamoured with the idea of a wedding, but not a marriage. I have seen so many couples get married and pour their all into the wedding itself with little thought of what it actually means. The marriage is seen as an afterthought, as though everything is easy once you return from the honeymoon. The same applies to couples who move in together with little thought of how the relationship will work and how the dynamics of the relationship has changed.3. Is a high divorce rate bad? Why?
Nothing at all. Children are born "out of wedlock" all the time and are in stable and loving families. People seem to have the mistaken belief that every child born out of wedlock are born into single parent families, who have little to no contact with one parent (primarily the father) and allowed to run wild with little to no care.4. What's wrong with children being born "out of wedlock"?
A child born in wedlock, in a family unit that is abusive or destructive will have a more unstable upbringing than a child born to a single loving parent or to a loving couple who are not married. Children learn about forming relationships from their parent(s) and those around them.5. Do any of these things really lead to "unstable upbringings"?
Many hold the view that parents should remain together in unhappy or abusive relationships because of the children. Having known and seen the results of such a line of thought, I have come to the conclusion that it creates a more unstable home environment for the children and the children end up, to put it bluntly, more screwed up as a result. I know of many people who have come from such home environments and every single one of them are emotionally unstable and are unable to form and continue relationships in their lives.
"Moral order" is something that can only be defined by the individual. For example, some might deem it moral or just to beat and rape one's wife, but the majority would disagree and as a result, such actions are now illegal.6. Is there really "no moral order" in the West? What kind of moral order would you like to see?
Of course it is. I am an atheist and see my family and friends all the time. We go to weddings, have get togethers and meet up and discuss issues that are important to us.7. Is it possible to seriously "meet up with family and friends, go to weddings, have get togethers, meet up and discuss issues" in the absence of religion, or not?
To give a perfect example, when we lost our home and a fair few of our belongings in the storms and mudslide that ravaged our suburb, I rang my mother in a fairly hysterical state a few hours later (we had to run for our lives at 2am and I didn't want to freak our parents at that time of the night) and within an hour, an army of our family and friends had converged with trailers and everything imaginable to try to salvage what could be salvaged from the house itself. Half of who are not religious and are in fact atheists. Hell, we were saved by neighbours we had never even met before but lived a fair way up the street who saw the mudslide come down the street and rushed to our aid at 2am and they took us in for the rest of the night. Several of our neighbours came to our aid that night and immediately after as well.. many of whom combed the streets and local creek bed behind our house and salvaged a lot of our son's toys that had been washed away. When immediately after the first storm, the drinking water had become contaminated, people from around the neighbourhood went to the army water stations (the army had brought in drinking water at set up stations in various streets) and brought the rest of us who were unable to leave due to damage to our vehicles, cartons of water. Food was shared between neighbours and people we had never met before. Immediately after the first storm that decimated our suburb, neighbours rushed from door to door to make sure everyone was alright.. We had people who lived a few streets down the road come knocking on our door to ask us if we needed help clearing away the debris. After the mudslide a few days later, everyone and anyone came the next day with shovels to help clear the mud out of the house.. many of whom we had never met before. To say that family and friend togetherness and community spirit can only occur in religious circles is, to me anyway, a tad ignorant.
It can and it can not. Social issues like rape and refusing to give a rape victim a morning after pill is not handling it better than secularism. Religion is and should remain a personal affair, not imposed on the society at large without their consent.8. Does religion "tackle social issues" better than secularism?