And I THINK Neddy always agreed with me that the resolution of the twin paradox is that the traveling twin (he) says that the home twin (she) instantaneously gets much older when he instantaneously reverses course. I don't think that Halc believes that, or at least he doesn't like to emphasize that, preferring instead to just use the spacetime interval.
Just want to clarify this. Your explanation (were it to properly include frame references, which it doesn't) isn't wrong. My explanation using intervals is also not 'the' correct one, it just has the property of generalizing for any situation, which is an unnecessary requirement for an explanation intended for a layman.
Probably the simplest explanation (more intuitive than the interval explanation) for the twins thing is to pick an inertial frame (any one will do) and then just compute how fast each clock moves relative to that frame and for how long. Regardless of frame chosen, the outcome will be the same with the one twin (acting merely as a living clock, never needing to observe, conclude, or believe anything) having the same age differential at the reunion.
Below is from your reply to Neddy's updated spacetime diagram.
That's an improvement, but you've still got the initial conditions wrong: my proof starts with the traveling twin stationary with respect to the home twin.
I will try to draw one with that included, but nowhere near as neat as the machine-generated picture Neddy provided. I don't have very good tools.
At the beginning of the scenario, they are separated by 34.64 ly. She is 40, and he is 20. They stay that way until she is 50 and he is 30.
OK, let me draw that. S (she) is the inertial frame Neddy depicts. She stays put. Both rockets go off to the left in S, with him riding his rocket.
This depicts frame S, the frame in which Alice is stationary. Purple worldline is leading rocket. It's the same as Neddy's pic except it adds the 10 year wait as you specify, and it doesn't include Bob getting out there (the S' outbound inertial frame). Alice follows the black vertical time line labeled with her age. The brown line is the trailing rocket with Bob on it. Frame S" is the 'return' inertial frame in which Bob is stationary after the acceleration. I chose the origin so that Bob's age was 30 and his x" coordinate was identical to his x coordinate at his acceleration event.
It shows the two of them meeting at the event where Alice is 90 and Bob is 50. Perhaps Bob gets off there, but I let the rocket continue left off the page. My apologies that the event where the S" line of simultaneity (green) meets the lead rocket worldline is off the page.
Alice does not witness the ship teleporting away. It just moves away at 0.866c as soon as she turns 50, just like you say.
At that instant, he instantaneously changes his speed wrt her from zero to 0.866 (directed toward her). And that is also the instant when the two separated rockets (colocated with him and her) instantaneously change speed from zero to 0.866 ly/y (by prior agreement), both directed along the line from him and through her position (but not quite hitting her!). All of the action of interest in this proof, though, happens when she is exactly 50. If you CORRECTLY assume that the leading rocket and the trailing rocket maintain the same separation during their instantaneous speed changes, then she sees nothing absurd (the rocket colocated with her doesn't spontaneously disappear from her position and re-appear a finite distance from her [in the direction away from the traveling twin] ... it just instantaneously starts moving at a fixed speed away from her).
It was brief, but the green bit is a frame reference. So that means I actually agree with all this. It matches what SR says. The separation of the rockets in S is constant at 34.64, both before and after the simultaneous speed change.
Is the drawing correct? It can be altered if I got the scenario wrong, or you could draw your own if I mucked up what you're suggesting.