What age gap is TOO big to be socially acceptable and WHY? 5 years, 10 years, 20 years difference?
If you're just talking about casual dating, including sex, that's nobody's business except the participants. I'm a libertarian and it's essential that consenting
adults be allowed to do whatever the heck they want so long as it causes no direct harm to others. I'll leave the question open as to who's an adult.
But if you're talking about serious dating with the prospect of marriage, my rule of thumb is twenty years. Beyond that you've got someone from a different generation. In today's world where things change so quickly you've got some serious problems understanding each other and sharing interests. Of course I don't think it should be a law--consenting adults and all that--and of course there are exceptions to every rule and some May-December couple is going to find eternal bliss. But it's something to stop and think about before diving in.
I read (and I can't vouch for the authority of this) that in earlier times it was the mark of responsibility for a middle-aged man to never hire a prostitute who was a generation younger. The reason was that it could be a daughter he didn't know he had.
and very common, i am sure. i have never heard of anyone making an issue of something like that and to me it would be bizarre if they did.
I have a friend who's son was busted for statch when he was 18 and his girlfriend was 17.8. All it took was for her father to get pissed off and run to the cops. Now he's on that snitch'n'bitch list that prevents him from getting a job or renting a home.
But fortunately all states don't play by the same rules. In desperation and poverty he moved back in with his mother in another state. The next morning he dutifully reported to the police station to register as a sex offender. The lady behind the desk took a good look at his record, laughed, wadded up the printout, threw it in the trash, and said, "Welcome to
[the other state.] Have a nice life, son."
Not morally wrong, no...but as a 45-year old, if a smoking-hot 18 year old stranger was throwing herself at me I would be VERY suspicious, probably so much so that I would reject her advances just to be on the safe side. I'm sure there's some non-zero number of hot 18 year old girls out there who want to have flings with random middle-aged guys, but they're probably rare enough that my "something's weird about this" alarm would go off. (Assuming you aren't a rich and/or famous middle-aged guy).
Exactly. If she wanted to have a fling with a middle-aged guy, virtually all of them are available to her. Why not set her sights a little higher and go for the wealthier one? She doesn't have to be a gold-digger and try to screw him out of half his fortune, but why not enjoy being treated to nice gifts and vacations?
If she's not that bright, then you can't help wondering what else is wrong with her and is it contagious?
But who decides what the legal age is? Why 16? Why 18? Why not 12? Why not 21? My question is what makes it ok for it be consider moral at a certain age and why that age?
Politics. Next question?
So heres another questions.... It's obviously illegal for an adult to have sexual interactions with a minor. But is it illegal for a minor to have sexual interactions with another minor?
Yeah, you see that one in the newspaper all the time. They're both guilty of statch ("statutory rape").