they do espouse that issues of religion/god do not offer an influencing contribution to their personal lives though ...
I'm sure a specific context will vary from person to person that says that. How I see it, if I were to say such a thing, is in the context that there is no god in this house. There are no religious observances, we do not abide by religious laws, (yes I understand these share a commonality with the laws of society - stick with me), or have any influence in our personal lives with concerns to gods. However.. we do know religious people, we do hear the words soul, heaven and god in movies and music, our children are currently in an establishment that demands they be fed the idea of gods and religious worship etc etc - in that context yes, nobody can escape from it even if they wanted to.
Look, it's not one of my statements so I am probably not the person you would need to answer it.
hence trying to redefine your designation as a "non-theist" seems more like a valued ideal than a deserving title
You can call me whatever you want. There was never a day when I stood on a large box in the middle of town with a loudspeaker declaring "I am an atheist". It's what I am called by theists. I, unlike some here perhaps, don't really care what someone calls me. You can call me a non-theist, an atheist, an unbeliever, an infidel whatever.. It's inconsequential to my lack of belief in gods.
problems arise when the inquiring mind is curtailed by pre-existing beliefs
I wouldn't know, I've always been an atheist and I am a man with a scientific mind. The problem generally seems to be that the theist just doesn't like being questioned - he just likes to make the claims. (This reminds me that I'm still waiting for an answer to the question I asked 8 times on the other thread).
my point is that your position as an atheist is more diametrically opposed to theism than mine was
The problem here is that you don't know me at all, but - needless to say - you are now in a position that is instantly bias to mine. You are of course wrong, but that's bound to happen when you pretend that you know someone else. The only thing I am opposed to are unsupported claims and those that continually make them and then run when asked to support those claims.
what is a problem is when you clamour for a definition of atheism being the non-belief of god, when your (virtual) behavior indicates the exact opposite
It would seem that you see something that isn't there because of your preset beliefs. I'm sure the text you believe in adamantly has some quite harsh words to say about my kind. How, once you've read it and believe it, can I not be seen in a negative way by your kind?