Would you teach your kid to fight a bully?

Oli said:
Not since I left school: I learned how to control a situation or leave before it turned stupid.
I'd rather have a quiet drink in the pub than fight.
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Do you think small children are capable of controlling a situation or leave before it turns stupid?

You are approaching this as an adult, what you would do as an adult. It is vastly different on the playground with small children.

With children, the situation will be stupid from the get go. So there won't really be a chance to leave before it turns stupid.
 
Agreed which is why I said "not since I left school" - but the topic had strayed away from kids somewhat...
 
Turning the other cheek, in reality, is not possible.

It involves standing completely still while someone pounds the snot out of you.

Why people equate self defence with viciousness and antisociality, I have no idea. It's NECESSARY.

If your kid is being bullied take him/her to a self defence class. Simple as that.
 
I would definitely tell my kid to hurt anyone who's trying to harm them, and show them how. It doesn't matter if you get your ass kicked, as long as you hurt the other guy, he'll likely choose another target the next time he wants to take his aggression out on somebody, because people don't like being hurt.

visceral_instinct said:
Wow, you do krav maga? Respect. :)

And there was me prejudging you as uber girlie girl. Damn :D
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You judged the buglady who takes animal corpses back to her hovel as a girly girl?
 
Oniw17 said:
I would definitely tell my kid to hurt anyone who's trying to harm them, ...
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I agree. I wouldn't teach my kid just self defense. I'd want them to hurt the other kid so they don't come back.

But I would always always hope my kid had the skill to walk away or diffuse the situation. (which is what they are taught now). So far only my daughter has been involved in a hair pulling fight.
 
If I have a child, I will most definitely teach them to fight back. Regardless of any school policy, I won't let my kid take shit from anyone. Administrative staff at schools advise students to walk away but a majority of the time this isn't possible.(At least in my own experience) If my son or daughter comes home and tells me they were suspended for fighting back with a bully I'd give them a high five and tell them I'm proud.
 
Silverfire

how about if they came home (or called from jail) and said they shot the bully?

I love the contrast between this thread and the collumbine thread

the funny thing is that in battered wife syndrome the threat doesnt actually have to be immidiate for it to be concidered justifiable homicide
 
I do see what you're trying to get at. I would definitely teach my child where to draw the line, self defense has it's limits. In the military they teach you about the RoE and the chain of force. If my child did indeed shoot someone, they better had had a damn good reason for it. That would be limited to; saving their own life ie. someone was going to shoot them first, or saving someone elses life.

I would tell them to defend themselves, but only to defuse the situation and not escalate it. If a bully was coming at them with their hands and feet, by all means, I would teach them to use the same amount of force. But I would make sure they know it is unacceptable to escalate the situation by using a weapon or punching even. For example, a minor shove fest should remain that. If I were to find out that the my child and another were only pushing and my child threw the first punch, I would be highly disappointed.
 
Asguard said:
the funny thing is that in battered wife syndrome the threat doesnt actually have to be immidiate for it to be concidered justifiable homicide
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One of my teachers told me something like that in the beginning of seventh grade. Something like if a women was being beaten by her spouse, she coould get away with killing him while she was menstral, right?
 
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