Fraggle Rocker poses a very interesting answer to the general question: "Why can't we just talk to each other?"
Well, the problem is that we can't. We - this 'society' and that - see things too fundamentally (to use the word hovering in everyone's subconscious) differently to amass change. A simple reflection:
Islamic societies and democratic ones (or republics, or 'Western' ones, or whatever you might choose to refer to them as, post-secular-JudeoChristian-ethical-industriohumanitarian complexes or what have you) are based, at their philosophical cores, in different worlds altogether. The islamic state is constructed and exists for the reason of furthering and continuing islam, by way of which it invokes sharia and so forth. The latter type (I avoid naming it for the above reasons) is based (where that right is not impeded, or not not impeded, or vaguely cited, by bad chads, or good ones, or indifferent ones, or electronic people that may or may not exist in some time and place) in the furthering and continuance of democracy.
Now the more politically introspective among you might be thinking: “well, duuhh", but the contrast is I think so direct as to be habitually ignored.
One never proposes (in public discourse, anyway, unless one cares to be verbally tarred and feathered by upstanding Minutemen, political muskets loaded and charged with Constitutional cannonballs) a reduction in democracy as a panacea to the ills of democratic society. (And please, no comments about red-staters versus blue-staters; I’ve heard, too, plenty of well-educated leftists demanding more oligarchy and less freedom.) Democracy is often taken as a de facto solution or optimal state-of-being, these democratic rights being "self-evident".
In the same way, but with apparently more exacting standards, no one who does not care for public beatings, fines, jail, forced divorce and eventual beheading never offer less islam as a solution to the problems of islamic society. Contrarily, it is in fact often the reverse: “Women are oppressed! What can we do?” “More islam!” “Human rights are in danger! How can we stop this?” “More islam!” “Apostates are being killed! What is the solution?” “More islam!” and so on and so on, ad nauseam. There are exceptions to this – human rights organizations do exist in islamic countries, the adherents of which are often referred to by where they are buried. In any event, it is contrary to the nature of islamic society to ease off the valves on religion – for if one’s Head of State is purported not to be a mere mortal choking on a pretzel, but rather God, then it probably strikes the waybearers of officialdom as well as the laity to err on the side of torches and pitchforks, so as not to offend governmental practice and a being that supposedly dictates the future of individual existence. And so “more islam” is inevitably preached as a solution, without ever recognizing (or at least not obviously) that more islam (translating into more conservative islam) itself is the problem, and so there is less talking - or at least not that outside the ‘will’ of this presumed ‘prophet’, forcing discussion into those comfortable patterns of “submission” and rote, and resulting in more dismay and decry of the “evils” of Western (or whatever) decadence, where people are “free to insult Allah, but not free to question the Holocaust” and so forth, and so there is more inward hatred directed at those presumed to be fifth columnists inside the ummah – the Christians, the Jews, the Animists, the Hindus, the secularists – without ever needing to identify precisely what is so wrong about them, or so right about more islam in the first place.
Now all that might seem an unnecessarily harsh condemnation of the society of islamic nations, or of islam. I don’t doubt that there are truly moderate muslims in the world (although apparently not a majority of British muslims anyway, which is quite disturbing), but consider: in which national societies is the questioning of societal dogma (religious, political or otherwise) tolerated? In which is it not?
Why is that, and is it likely to change?