Denying or ignoring one's intentions does not make those intentions disappear.
If a person dresses with the intention to provoke others,
This is your judgment of what these people are doing and I rarely see it applied to people who own things that others do not have, who wear jewelery or drive nice cars.
Most women who get raped, the vast majority are wearing clothes that are within the norms for their culture or subculture.
The word provoke is not one they would have. That men would find them attractive and often at least as important if not more so, that they think so and their friends think so and they are seen as acceptable and OK are more often the motives.
As a man I don't feel provoked by what women wear. I do not feel attacked.
and then some people indeed end up provoked and acting on it, then the provocatively dressed person is complicit in whatever is perpetrated against them.
If they wanted to make men angry and sexually aroused there is some complicity. If there was a real hatred of men or themselves in it.
For whether they get rotten tomatoes thrown at them or for something else.
It is the intention that makes them complicit in the crime committed against them.
I think that internally, acknowledging one's intentions is the crucial element for recovery.
It seems to me you are just assuming you know their motives.
I never see this for people who wear expensive suits, etc.
Would the executive who wears a suit three times what his competing coworkers wear really be accused by you or others of complicity in his getting beaten up by one of them? I doubt it. There is zero tolerance for this criticism and there has never been a court based tolerance for this defense, whereas there still is in some cases one with rape.
I think many people who have been victims of crimes are doing themselves a disservice when they insist that they were completely innocent in the matter - when the fact of the matter is that they were not.
I don't know a single rape victim where this is the problem and I have known many via work.
Seriously, this is a hallucinated problem, whatever some of them may say publically to strangers. Most of them feel often for the rest of their lives feelings of self-hatred, shame and disgust.
You can rest assured that they are not getting away with something.
They are innocent, also. See my addition to the previous post, driving while black.
I am afraid that it is often done with so much "care" that it renders the whole discussion ineffective, thus not helping anyone.
How dare anyone feel victimized while not immediately ransacking themselves.
1) see if your views are consistent regarding different kinds of crime.
2) see if your verb 'provoke' actually fits what women are doing by asking them.
3)see if rape victims, by talking to them, are actually getting way with somethign and not learning.
We come from different cultures so I can't be sure, but I have no met a single rape victim who did not look at their own behavior, generally the problem being with TOO HARSH a view.
Even the ones who were dressed frumpily and it was a complete stranger rape in a non-dating scene, etc. scenario.
He was asking for it is not used in courtrooms and hasn't been. But with rape....ah, she was complicit.