Here in the UK a Bill to ban parents giving their (or anyone elses ) children anything more than a firm tap on the shoulder by making it illegal and imprisonable has just been defeated, but pressure groups are vowing to fight on to get it banned.
Opinions on discipling children with the use of the slap/spank?
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Imho We see already the problems caused when the state thinks it knows how to raise a child better than the parents and tries to do too much in the best "interests of the children", the recent cot death fiasco being one examplei, also numerous cases of Social services just getting things plain wrong, taking kids that shouldnt be taken, and leaving ones that should be taken (Anna Climbe)
I think it should be that parents are assumed to know best about their situation and decide when a smack is in order, the few parents who go too far and are just plain abusive are already covered under existing legislation for child abuse i'd like to think.
Making such a trivial (yes, trivial) thing an illegal act, that will no doubt go to social services records, is asking for trouble, ciminilasing many more innocent and good parents when abusive or sadistic parents will still be just the same regardless
I also found it intersting that the majority of "MP's" backing the ban said that it was unacceptable to smack a child and quote extreme examples like Anna Climbie, she was not a victim of discipline, she was tortured and abused (and ultimatly murdered) by sadists who are more than covered by existing legislation, and failed by social services who should of taken her into care long before her death.
The same MP's said that they should ban smacking and encourage parents on more constructive methods.
I won't deny there are very good methods, developed by psycologists and experts that work very well and are another step before a smack but does the average parent know these? is your average parent a PHD Child Psychologist?
No?
Well then who's going to teach these parents, are they, before the ban, going to implement, a national, free, training course for all parents, and provide on going support for parents?
Like hell.
Its the old, Ban it, Criminialise the innocent, and forget about it and blame raising youth crime on bad parents later.
Even if they did implement some kind of program to help parents, with our pensions shagged, and the average joe having to work till they die now days who will have time to attend or take up full time parenting? not the majority.
There is a program on UK TV at the moment (Chanel 4) called Who Rules the Roost where 2 parents take 2 weeks off work to become full time parents with the aid of a Child Psychologist who remains out of sight of the family via Radio / the cameras.
Its actually very interesting.
Shes a Psychologist with much study and experience, some of her advice works but goes totally against what i think would be "natural" parenting or even common sense and most of it involves a lot of TIME, something all too many of us just don't have any more, yet it works and she explains why it works and it does make sense.
in fact it had some parents in tears when they had to ignore their kid and pretend they werent there or walk off without them and watch them dispair as they thought they were lost.
It certainly installed strong lessons in their heads and they behaved a lot better but the average parent isn't going to know these things or try them.
She also makes a very valid point, you CAN'T reason with a 2 year old, yet the Do Gooders would have us belive differently, that simply telling a child that something is bad will miraculously make sure they never do it.
I grew up with my mum who is a traditionaly short chinese woman (bless )
Me and my brother were twice her size by our early teens thus you can imagine when we were totally out of control she had to resort to something rather larger than her voice or fists to get us to sit up and pay attention.
Unfortuantly this meant occasionaly we'd get caught on a sharp end of something and i've got a few scars that will probably be with me till the day i die but at the end of the day we sure as hell remebered what was right and wrong and i like to think we grew up very well and balanced (not emotionally repressed as some "experts" would like us to belive).
Never had trouble with the law, still love my parents, intergrate into society perfectly fine and from what people tell me to my face me and my brother are perfectly nice, healthy people, and i think our up bringing helped.
Basically it didn't do me any harm .
I hate to imagine the youth we would end up with if they find out that the government have effectivly turned round and told them look.
Your Parents are just poowerless keepers, we run the show, you don't like your parents or they try to disciplin you, just call us, we'll chuck the bad bad people in jail and get you new parents....
Opinions on discipling children with the use of the slap/spank?
----
Imho We see already the problems caused when the state thinks it knows how to raise a child better than the parents and tries to do too much in the best "interests of the children", the recent cot death fiasco being one examplei, also numerous cases of Social services just getting things plain wrong, taking kids that shouldnt be taken, and leaving ones that should be taken (Anna Climbe)
I think it should be that parents are assumed to know best about their situation and decide when a smack is in order, the few parents who go too far and are just plain abusive are already covered under existing legislation for child abuse i'd like to think.
Making such a trivial (yes, trivial) thing an illegal act, that will no doubt go to social services records, is asking for trouble, ciminilasing many more innocent and good parents when abusive or sadistic parents will still be just the same regardless
I also found it intersting that the majority of "MP's" backing the ban said that it was unacceptable to smack a child and quote extreme examples like Anna Climbie, she was not a victim of discipline, she was tortured and abused (and ultimatly murdered) by sadists who are more than covered by existing legislation, and failed by social services who should of taken her into care long before her death.
The same MP's said that they should ban smacking and encourage parents on more constructive methods.
I won't deny there are very good methods, developed by psycologists and experts that work very well and are another step before a smack but does the average parent know these? is your average parent a PHD Child Psychologist?
No?
Well then who's going to teach these parents, are they, before the ban, going to implement, a national, free, training course for all parents, and provide on going support for parents?
Like hell.
Its the old, Ban it, Criminialise the innocent, and forget about it and blame raising youth crime on bad parents later.
Even if they did implement some kind of program to help parents, with our pensions shagged, and the average joe having to work till they die now days who will have time to attend or take up full time parenting? not the majority.
There is a program on UK TV at the moment (Chanel 4) called Who Rules the Roost where 2 parents take 2 weeks off work to become full time parents with the aid of a Child Psychologist who remains out of sight of the family via Radio / the cameras.
Its actually very interesting.
Shes a Psychologist with much study and experience, some of her advice works but goes totally against what i think would be "natural" parenting or even common sense and most of it involves a lot of TIME, something all too many of us just don't have any more, yet it works and she explains why it works and it does make sense.
in fact it had some parents in tears when they had to ignore their kid and pretend they werent there or walk off without them and watch them dispair as they thought they were lost.
It certainly installed strong lessons in their heads and they behaved a lot better but the average parent isn't going to know these things or try them.
She also makes a very valid point, you CAN'T reason with a 2 year old, yet the Do Gooders would have us belive differently, that simply telling a child that something is bad will miraculously make sure they never do it.
I grew up with my mum who is a traditionaly short chinese woman (bless )
Me and my brother were twice her size by our early teens thus you can imagine when we were totally out of control she had to resort to something rather larger than her voice or fists to get us to sit up and pay attention.
Unfortuantly this meant occasionaly we'd get caught on a sharp end of something and i've got a few scars that will probably be with me till the day i die but at the end of the day we sure as hell remebered what was right and wrong and i like to think we grew up very well and balanced (not emotionally repressed as some "experts" would like us to belive).
Never had trouble with the law, still love my parents, intergrate into society perfectly fine and from what people tell me to my face me and my brother are perfectly nice, healthy people, and i think our up bringing helped.
Basically it didn't do me any harm .
I hate to imagine the youth we would end up with if they find out that the government have effectivly turned round and told them look.
Your Parents are just poowerless keepers, we run the show, you don't like your parents or they try to disciplin you, just call us, we'll chuck the bad bad people in jail and get you new parents....
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