I'm subscribed to a Christian magazine called Brio. (Don't worry, I'm not wasting my money on it, I have a relative who thinks I need it.) Well, out of sheer boredom I was flipping through the most recent issue and I found something I think is just crazy!!
Here's Susie's response:
My next problem is with the statement "I hope you won't become so comfortable in this position that it'll also become easy to fall asleep with him if the two of you are alone." What would you rather them do if they are alone?? Is she suggesting they should do something else? It would be safer for them to be asleep than to be awake and "tempted" to do other things.
To the Christians out there, what is your view on this. What is acceptable for a couple to do outside of marriage?
-Belle
I had never even considered this as a bad thing until I read that article.Dear Susie:
My boyfriend and I have been going out for several months, and before we started dating we were best friends for more than a year. We're both Christians and because of school-related functions, we're often together on a bus late at night. Sometimes I fall asleep with my head on his shoulder or his arms around me. When one of my friends found out about this, she told me I had sinned by "sleeping with a man." did I do something wrong?
-Confused
Here's Susie's response:
Ok, first of all, what is the known will of God? Obviously it isn't well known if this is even an issue.Dear Confused:
Sinning is deliberately going against the known will of God. Though God is clear on premarital sex being a sin, the bible doesn't specifically say anything about "not falling asleep with your head on your boyfriend's shoulder while on a bus ride home."
But the bible does warn us against yielding to temptation. While you didn't do anything wrong by falling asleep with your head on his shoulder, you are allowing yourself to be extreamly comfortable with him. Is that wrong? Yes and no. One sign of a healty relationship is being comfortable with each other. Yet, I hope you won't become so comfortable in this position that it'll also become easy to fall asleep with him if the two of you are alone.
I do believe lying next to the opposite sex (in the same bed, camping, or on the couch) and going to sleep is an act of intimacy that should be saved for marriage.
My next problem is with the statement "I hope you won't become so comfortable in this position that it'll also become easy to fall asleep with him if the two of you are alone." What would you rather them do if they are alone?? Is she suggesting they should do something else? It would be safer for them to be asleep than to be awake and "tempted" to do other things.
To the Christians out there, what is your view on this. What is acceptable for a couple to do outside of marriage?
-Belle