Simulataneity exists, however not all references are in a position to observe it when we use relative reference. To do so you need to include an energy balance.
Special relativity has three equations, one for mass, one for distance and one for time. If you use only space-time ; distance-time, you can't determine absolute reference. Rather reference will appear relatice. You need to include relativistic mass, since energy conservation will not allow a stationary reference to pretend it gained energy, in the same way you can pretent it has motion using only distance and time.
For example, I call this the relative reference work-out. You sit on the sidelines, stationary, and watch someone run. You then say reference is relative, and you are the one that is moving. This allows you to ignore energy conservation, and be the one burning all the calories, since you are the one in relative motion.
On the other hand, if we are forced to do an energy balance by measuring calories, the relative reference trick won't work, because measuring the calories defines an absolute scale that tells us who is stationary and who is moving.
Say we have someone stationary, and someone on a train is moving close to C. If we do an energy balance, you can tell one from the other, even if we decide to begin with relative reference, and define moving as stationary and the stationary as moving.
Since only one reference has the energy needed to complete the energy balance, the question becomes, does the observed distance contraction and time dilation stem from the same mechanism for both, or from two different mechanisms due to an absolute reference based on energy?
If we use the mass equation of special relativity, since only one reference has an actual mass increase, its visual effects are directly connected to its own absolute velocity. The other reference is not generating its own effect, since it lacks energy to make a real space-time impact. One reference is generating the effects for both references. This is an example of simulataneity since there is only one source for two effects.