That's my point though, you went without, so to suggest that all people must have an "angle" and be after sex is a false statement as you yourself prove.:shrug:
Of course people can act, lots of people do and for various reasons, that doesn't mean that all people do, or all people in a certain situation do.
i didn't mean to imply that everyone has an angle. i do think though, that you would have to admit, that most people do put up a bit of a front, or are not 100% honest, or "themselves", when they're trying to get someone else interested in them. my point is, that you should be able to be 100% honest, and yourself, when presenting yourself to someone else. anything less than that would indicated you don't love yourself.
and jpappl, some people do use the nice guy routine as an angle, or as a lie, that they tell women, or maybe even tell themselves. i knew a guy who said that the reason women won't date him is because he's too nice. and after i got to know him i told him that wasn't true. women didn't want to date him because he was a raging alcoholic and a liar who smelled really bad and lived in a shack in the woods. and after that, i of course found out that he wasn't even nice, he was just putting on an act to try to get laid, and it didn't work.
see, when the nice guy routine doesn't work, the guy gets pissed off, and he all of a sudden isn't so nice anymore.
women generally (unless they're fucked up) want a man who is strong, brave, capable, stable, and confident. they want to feel safe, comforted, and protected. you can be nice, and be none of those things, or you can be nice and be all of those things. you can be nice and be a raging alcoholic. you can be nice and be a liar. you can be nice and be lazy and stupid, and some emotional mess. nice by itself just doesn't cut it when it comes to sex.
and i think that it's safe to say that most people do want sex. they may not have it though for a whole host of reasons.
Good no sexism, so we can conclude both sexes are weak if they need anyone else to pick them up when they're down because they should love themselves. Does this apply to other things too? Does using medicinal drugs, or therapy make someone weak? Are those believing in god as a crutch weak?
if you don't love yourself, then you should fix that, and not allow your sense of self-esteem to reside on someone else's acceptance of you, or attraction to you. nobody's perfect and circumstances sure aren't many times, but you know as well as i do that some people can just suck the life right out of you. and if it's someone you want to help fine, but that doesn't mean they'd make a good sexual partner. having a bunch of problems and being needy and not being able to cope with life isn't generally attractive. except maybe to some insecure control freak.
I'm going to disagree with you, from what I can tell periods lacking in confidence are a normal cycle of life, and often triggered by outside events. It doesn't mean the person doesn't love themselves or won't pick themselves up in time, nor does it mean they want your pity and sympathy, just your understanding that an event has lead to a loss of confidence and not to kick them while they're down. Seeing as you're human I doubt you haven't been in that position yourself or that you've never needed somebody elses help so I'm perplexed by your statements.
no, of course that is true. that's what life is all about. but luke is having a temper tantrum because not every girl in the world wants to fuck him. and i say, well get over it. i don't think that if he liked himself, that he would give a shit about a girl who didn't.
They don't, as I'm sure you realise. We could roll out the cliches of how "love is blind" or "you can't help who you fall for" etc but they have a ring of truth. When people develop an affection for another they rarely see the bad things, and mr. right believes he's found ms. right (or vice versa if you'd prefer) and only realises he's made a mistake when it's too late. Which probably contributes to the high divorce rate. It's also like asking why women stay in abusive relationships, and is probably a self perpetuating problem. They probably need an outsider to stick by them and slowly show them how stupid they're being for sticking around, not pity.
Obviously it can be hard to tell if someone is genuinely down or stuck in a rut and needs help or if they're a faking, manipulative asshole, but I'd rather not tar everyone with the same negative brush just yet.
people are so damn co-dependent. i swear to god, they can't even finish one horrible train wreck of a relationship before they start another one.
What my dick does is irrelevant and none of your business so I answered the question.
that wasn't just directed at you...it's general advice. ladies keep your pants on too.
