Wow FadingCaptain,
This is basically my situation!!!! It is actually a very touchy subject to me.
I don't really know what I classify myself as. I tend to lean a little more towards atheism because I try to be a reasonable, rational, logical thinker but always have doubts...ya know....I guess after a comment like that I'm sort of an Agnostic...for now. I'm always open to the idea of "God". My wife is a born-again Christian. Here's the twist. She didn't get "saved" til 4 1/2 years after we have been dating....So I was already madly in Love with her and would do anything for her. I was not gonna let religion get between us. Honestly, at some points, it was very hard. We would get into a lot more fights. There would just seem to be so much tension. I remember one time she told me I was going to Hell and that pretty much crushed me. I couldn't believe what was happening but I always was focused on our relationship.
Now, we have been together for 8 years and we have been married since 9/15/01. We have both matured on many different levels. We have a wonderful life together. I love being married to her. She is just a great person also extremely Beautiful
Well, now I face a new problem....another mountain to climb over.....Children. She is already talking about having them. I'm still very young but that is not my main concern. My concern is how are we going to raise them
Ofcoase she wants them to go to church but I feel that church brainwashes a bit, specially for young children who don't know how to use their brains yet. She says well, they can go to church and when they are old enough to make a decision, they can. But the problem with that, is that their minds have already been made up for them before they get to make their decision.
I mean which way do I go??? I can't teach them my views and Christianity at the same time...that would just confuse them. I can't not teach them anything at all....she wouldn't have that. And I can't sit there and watch them get brainwashed either.
Well that my delemma. I love kids and I want to have about 4 of them, but this......I am not looking forward to