What are our social obligations in a semi-anonymous social network?
Once I got into a tremendous row because someone thought I'd made a crass suggestion about another poster killing himself. I admit I found that one annoying because one of my inner sentiments is that there are people whose best contribution to humanity, life, the Universe, and everything would be suicide, but in this case I had actually taken a measure to avoid that slight. It is, after all, a vicious one.
Of late, I managed to gravely insult another poster by trying to make a point about judging the moral value of other people according to certain criteria. I've actually considered apologizing, but even in doing so I sound like I'm insulting someone: "I didn't realize you were going to take me so seriously. I'm sorry." I mean, there is, at least, an interpretation of that makes it sound half-assed. I mean, really. It's a member I don't genearlly get along with, and even though we've had a couple of lighter moments in recent days, I ought to know better than to take such swipes. One cannot presume that things have suddenly become "just fine" between us.
And in dwelling on that point, I came to wonder about cruelty in general. Because the flip side of apologizing is that I really didn't think this one was beyond the pale of what usually flies around here. So part of me wonders why I should worry about it when the mundane is generally even stronger and sharper.
Part of disagreeing is that we're going to sometimes find other people's beliefs utterly repugnant, and that means occasionally people are going to find what I believe repugnant. This should neither surprise nor bother me.
But I'm curious about people's emotional investments. We aren't spending words on such considerations in order to waste time, right? I mean, people who feel injured by a sense or tone of mocking actually feel that injury, right? We're not just stepping aside and worrying about how offended someone is when they're not actually offended, right? I mean, think about that: The idea that complaints about people's tones, characterizations, or behavior are just time-wasting methods because the topic itself is too hard to discuss. Isn't that just a bit off balance?
The whole thing starts to run into contradictions: I perceive many people whose rhetoric is fiercely sharper than what they're able to withstand. How is it that, for instance, someone whose argument tends to justify theories according to which he or she gets to "downgrade" other people's human worth can't handle a little bit of sarcasm? I mean, there is something inherently cruel in arguing that one gets to decide who is less than human.
So either way it's worrisome. Either way it seems just a bit insane.
And that's at the heart of the question: Given that there are human beings behind these avatars and façades, what responsible consideration do we owe potential emotional and psychiatric fragility?
• Once upon a time the moderators of this site had occasion to consider whether a discussion of suicide related to one of our members should be taken seriously.
• Internet communities often have, in addition to their administrators and moderators, self-appointed vigilantes who pursue all manner of perceived offenses from poltical incorrectness to hypocrisy, argumentativ fallacies to open hatred. Furthermore, many of us, especially in religious, political, and ethical discussions, attack not only the views of members in any given discussion, but entire paradigms and perspectives.
• Sometimes we joke about the developmental and psychiatric fitness of our neighbors at Sciforums, and on occasion we genuinely wonder.
• Internet communities often have, in addition to their administrators and moderators, self-appointed vigilantes who pursue all manner of perceived offenses from poltical incorrectness to hypocrisy, argumentativ fallacies to open hatred. Furthermore, many of us, especially in religious, political, and ethical discussions, attack not only the views of members in any given discussion, but entire paradigms and perspectives.
• Sometimes we joke about the developmental and psychiatric fitness of our neighbors at Sciforums, and on occasion we genuinely wonder.
Once I got into a tremendous row because someone thought I'd made a crass suggestion about another poster killing himself. I admit I found that one annoying because one of my inner sentiments is that there are people whose best contribution to humanity, life, the Universe, and everything would be suicide, but in this case I had actually taken a measure to avoid that slight. It is, after all, a vicious one.
Of late, I managed to gravely insult another poster by trying to make a point about judging the moral value of other people according to certain criteria. I've actually considered apologizing, but even in doing so I sound like I'm insulting someone: "I didn't realize you were going to take me so seriously. I'm sorry." I mean, there is, at least, an interpretation of that makes it sound half-assed. I mean, really. It's a member I don't genearlly get along with, and even though we've had a couple of lighter moments in recent days, I ought to know better than to take such swipes. One cannot presume that things have suddenly become "just fine" between us.
And in dwelling on that point, I came to wonder about cruelty in general. Because the flip side of apologizing is that I really didn't think this one was beyond the pale of what usually flies around here. So part of me wonders why I should worry about it when the mundane is generally even stronger and sharper.
Part of disagreeing is that we're going to sometimes find other people's beliefs utterly repugnant, and that means occasionally people are going to find what I believe repugnant. This should neither surprise nor bother me.
But I'm curious about people's emotional investments. We aren't spending words on such considerations in order to waste time, right? I mean, people who feel injured by a sense or tone of mocking actually feel that injury, right? We're not just stepping aside and worrying about how offended someone is when they're not actually offended, right? I mean, think about that: The idea that complaints about people's tones, characterizations, or behavior are just time-wasting methods because the topic itself is too hard to discuss. Isn't that just a bit off balance?
The whole thing starts to run into contradictions: I perceive many people whose rhetoric is fiercely sharper than what they're able to withstand. How is it that, for instance, someone whose argument tends to justify theories according to which he or she gets to "downgrade" other people's human worth can't handle a little bit of sarcasm? I mean, there is something inherently cruel in arguing that one gets to decide who is less than human.
So either way it's worrisome. Either way it seems just a bit insane.
And that's at the heart of the question: Given that there are human beings behind these avatars and façades, what responsible consideration do we owe potential emotional and psychiatric fragility?
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