I'm posting here in hopes of getting a serious reply instead of a series of jokes mixed with ads for herbal remedies. Not that I discount herbal remedies; I just have a healthy skepticism unless I can see verifiable scientific studies.
I am a 32 year old male, with a wife who is 35. We've been married for over a decade, but since we had children (7 years ago), my wife's libido has decreased dramatically. Mine, however, has not.
She is interested, occasionally... but I find that when something does happen, it satisfies her and just increases my desire for more. This often leads to arguments and hurt feelings the next morning or the following night.
I don't have what I would call an extreme drive. I'm not constantly turned on, or constantly thinking about it. I don't indulge in pornography or fantasies about other women - though I do sometimes indulge in fantasies about my wife. But, I often am turned on when I look at my wife - especially if she's wearing something particularly attractive or nothing at all. I used to consider this a good thing, but now it seems to be causing problems for us.
So my question is two fold. First, is trying to find a way to reduce my libido a wise idea? And second, if it is worth pursuing, what are the safest ways to go about it?
Our marriage is great other than this one problem (and the occasional money problems - but that's life, not marriage).
-Needy
I am a 32 year old male, with a wife who is 35. We've been married for over a decade, but since we had children (7 years ago), my wife's libido has decreased dramatically. Mine, however, has not.
She is interested, occasionally... but I find that when something does happen, it satisfies her and just increases my desire for more. This often leads to arguments and hurt feelings the next morning or the following night.
I don't have what I would call an extreme drive. I'm not constantly turned on, or constantly thinking about it. I don't indulge in pornography or fantasies about other women - though I do sometimes indulge in fantasies about my wife. But, I often am turned on when I look at my wife - especially if she's wearing something particularly attractive or nothing at all. I used to consider this a good thing, but now it seems to be causing problems for us.
So my question is two fold. First, is trying to find a way to reduce my libido a wise idea? And second, if it is worth pursuing, what are the safest ways to go about it?
Our marriage is great other than this one problem (and the occasional money problems - but that's life, not marriage).
-Needy