You "heard" wrong. Time dilation is not significant for observers at non-relativistic velocities, but the relativity of simultaneity is calculated using Lorentz transformations, which necessarily includes even inappreciable time dilation. The relativity of simultaneity very much does assume the constant speed of light. This is the whole reason that time dilation and length contraction are evoked.
The relativity of simultaneity is a direct consequence of the two postulates of SR, and as such necessarily assumes the constant speed of light, seeing how that is one of the postulates. And who said anything about "different observers, measuring particles to be at different locations at the same time"?
Relativity of simultaneity video
It looks like from watching this video that the velocity of the train then changes the observed speed of light. It assumes that the trains movement then allows the flash from lightning in the front of the train to be seen before the flash behind the train because of the trains velocity.
The trains velocity should not change the measured speed of light!