A couple of quotes for some thought:
"Don't apologise, Mister - it's a sign of weakness."
Do you agree? Why?
ok i was thinking wrong i guess
u opened my eyes to a new level
thankyou
No.
I think if someone makes a foolish mistake and sincerely wants to be
forgiven then that person should be given the opportunity to apologize. If
you don't allow that to happen that only shows that you aren't human
enough to let someone try to make amends for their foolishness which
makes you just about as foolish as they are. They only want to get back on
your good side and if you don't want them around you and you feel they
aren't sincere that's the only time to reject their apology.
Also, adults are unlikely to change their habits or character; if they do something once, you can bet they'll do it again and they're not truly sorry.
Then you are only talking about whether or not you would apologise for a deliberate action, where you feel you have taken in to account all of the consequences.I look at human actions differently. I recognize that we do what we do for a reason, we want to do it. We take our big steps with intention and desire and if we trot over someone else's concerns we aren't truly sorry because we got what we wanted. I say this in regards to adults. Children do things without foresight because, naturally, they lack experience; consequently, results of their actions are often a surprise to them. Children are weak though. Also, adults are unlikely to change their habits or character; if they do something once, you can bet they'll do it again and they're not truly sorry. I see refusal to apologise as ability to admit one's intentions to oneself and others, as admirable level of honesty. I am not sorry that I was late to meet a guy because I was busy making myself pretty for him, and he's not as upset with the end result as he would've been if I would've rushed.
So if I were late to pick my wife up and told her that I was sorry that I was
late because I had to stop and help a car accident victim then that
wouldn't be acceptable to you as well?
Ah - okay - in your example the person doing the pushing is NOT apologising, but merely trying to placate any reaction.The first quote came from a movie I haven't watched, so I don't know the context in which the words were said. I don't want to put them into a wrong context; but I estimate that it's safe to assume the quote refers to deliberate actions.
What actions are not deliberate? What's an accident? If you rushed into the subway car, you thought that possible presence of other people is negligible, so if you stepped on someone's toes it's not a true accident. When a child says he is sorry, he means (or ought to mean) that he'll never do it again. The same can not be said about an adult who is in a rush to get somewhere, didn't notice you, and pushed you; next time he'll be in a rush he'll push someone again.