Billy T said:
I don't do GR but know symetry when I see it. ...
May seem strange to reply to myself, but I did not "know symetry" when I see it.
In the birthframe of the two twins, they are twins, but the sign of their accelerations for the second of acceleration (on their own clocks) is opposite. Thus, the equations that mix their great birthframe separation into time-like separations are different.
Because some of the purely space-like separation in the original birth frame is transformed in to time-like separation, DIFFERENTLY in their new different frames,
they are no longer twins in their new frames. (Being "twins" is not something like being fat that you can take with you to a new frame. It is a relationship to the birthday of some one else.) That is, the day, which in the original birthframe that is simultaneous with twin A's birthday in the new A frame is not the day which is simultaneoous with twin B' birthday in his new frame. (Frame A has always existed before twin A enter it. So twin A has a birthday in new frame A. It is simultaneous with someday, but not the birthday in the birthframe. Likewise for twin in frame B, he has a day in the birthframe which is simultaneous with his date of birth in frame B.)
No problem with making a
single pair of events simultaneous between two frames - just set t=0 ON CO-LOCATED clocks in both frames, but note that a second event, later, will not have the same date/time accumulated on clocks that are keeping "proper time" correctly.
I.e. B's new birthday in frame of birth is not the same day as either the original birthday in birth frame or the day which was simultaneous with A's birthday in the birthframe. Being twins is a relationship between two birthdays in the same frame (their birthframe in this case) but as they were born on different days which are simultaneous with the day of their birth in their new frames (A and B). I.e. they are no longer twins in frames A & B.
I know it is very intutive to think that "once twins," "always twins" but it ain't so. (Unlike being fat, they can't take their "twinness" with them to the new frames.) Their great space-like separtion in their birthframe was transformed differently into time-like spepartaion as they moved to frames A & B.
I thank Pete for helping me see my way thru this modified twin paradox. I hope he will post the drawings he made that show (in each of the three frames separately) exactly what is happening - the time they drift inertially back towards each other to have their photo taken with common flash is clearly seen to be different in these drawings. Each "inertial drift time" is time dilated wrt the proper time and simultaneity of the other, just as SR states.