I have gone over this several times now. The simultaneous lightning strikes are part of Einstein's construction. He even asserts that the simultaneity of the strikes applies equally to the embankment and train frames. Go back and look at that part carefully. And remember this is a hypothetical. No one is saying that we could reproduce the conditions of the hypothetical in any practical sense. To do so would require ideally syncronized clocks.., but then that portion of the hypothetical was not available to M and M', so it is not important to RoS. It just makes the hypothetical more convincing and establishes conditions which will become important later in the book.
The observers at M and M' do not use synchronized clocks. In Einstein's construction of the hypothetical, as it relates to RoS there are no other clocks and no other observers. Neither of the observers at M or M', are recording when the lightning strikes actually strike the embankment. Both are only recording when they see, observer or measure the resulting flashes to occur, which is sometime after the actual event of the lightning strikes.
This is why I said do not get the lightning strikes and the flashes confused. You the reader have all of the information that goes into the construction of the hypothetical, the observers at M and M', have only when they record the flashes and that the train is moving relative to the embankment. It is the disagreement in their observations of what has been established as simultaneous events that is the foundation of RoS... Not the simutaneous events themselves.
All of my comments unless specifically mentioned otherwise, refer only to Einstein's hypotheical as constructed in his 1920 little book. This is for consistency and to clarify some of the confusion that results from adding, additional synchronized clocks, observers at A and B in both frames, relativistic velocities, burn marks on the embankment and train.., etc.
After one fully understands the basics of RoS, as described in Einstein's hypothetical, it may then be appropriate to look at other constructions.
I am not going to go back and re-quote, the original text. There should be no need. There is nothing in what I have presented that is inconsistent with SR.., as long as you remember I am interpreting a "hypotheical", not a real experiment.
RoS can be confirmed and if you define measure as it seems Neddy is, it can be measured. The measurements made by observers at M and M' of the when the record the flashes, represent coordinate times for those flashes within the context of their respective coordinate systems.
If you work backwards, using information available to the reader, not available to observers at M and M'.., and a full understanding of SR you will find that the lightning strikes were simultaneous in the embankment frame, they share a common time coordinate in that frame. And as Einstein pointed out they were also simultaneous in the train frame, sharing a common time coordinate, within that coordinate system. However, the lightning strikes are not what either observer records. They record only when they "see" the flashes from the lightning strikes.