Infidelity- Why Women/Men Cheat

if i hook up with a girl (or guy:p) and say its just a fling then its not cheating but if you lead the other person to belive its ONLY them you want and you sleep with someone else then you are scum because you have no sensitivity for the other person you surposedly "love"
 
Originally posted by The Marquis
The assumption (To use your favourite word) you're making here, Adam, is that an "ethical or moral code" must include fidelity.
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I made no such statement.
 
I too believe cheating is a sign of weakness combined with a lack of respect for your current partner and yourself.

But what it really comes down to is striving for attention and sexual gratiification. I believe people would get a 'high' off the fact that they are sexually attractive to so many different people.

Within the context of marraige I believe that a partner (and I'll speak from a womans perspective) feeling about as hot as stale bread do to the ineveitable 'comfort level' that grows between people who live together for a long time may seek other partners to simply see if 'they've still got it.

Or your a slut with no self esteem who believes thats all your good for.

I believe if you feel the desire to cheat it's because your not puuting enough into your current relationship. Try and remember why you were wanted to go out with this person in the first place.

If you find it was resons like money or 'to get some', get out of the relationship and same everyone a lot of pain by just sleeping around and not making commitments that will inevitably fail and break everyones heart.

Not that I'm promoting that...
 
People cheat

It's not that complicated. People get bored, and sexual attraction to the opposite (or even same sex) don't really cease. So people are going to look for un-boring ways to satisfy themselves.

I think...
 
Originally posted by beth
Or your a slut with no self esteem who believes thats all your good for.
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My, my, how our society has warped your sense of reality.

- Warren
 
Originally posted by chroot
If people would just accept those things that are intrinsically human, and stop letting society decide everything for them -- people would probably all have a few swinging experiences, enjoy them, and stop all the lying and cheating crap.

It's human nature to want to explore sexually. The only reason it's bad is because society tells us so. This is not a productive state of affairs, as shown by the rampant divorce rate.

All you people who support the idea that those who cheat are disgusting and wrong and weak and so on are just cattle. Society has given you instructions that counter your own natural instincts, and you're siding with society. Even worse, somehow you think you're gaining something by fettering yourself. Newsflash: you're not. You'll be divorced in four years just like most everyone else.

- Warren
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There's a lot of truth in what you've said, definitely! This has been one of my fave responses so far LOL
 
Originally posted by beth


I believe if you feel the desire to cheat it's because your not puuting enough into your current relationship. Try and remember why you were wanted to go out with this person in the first place.

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There are times when one puts into a relationship all that they possibly can, and it is not reciprocated. Cheating can be a relief from the wasted effort. And the reasons for wanting to be with the person in the first place can disappear. People can and do change...
 
so the fact that im a jealouse person who wouldnt chose to have either sort of threesom, i should have to because its evil sociaty not my own feelings?
 
does it matter?

they are there and i dont mind and no one i have dated has minded so who are YOU to tell me they shouldnt be there?
 
So defensive. I didn't tell you they shouldn't be there, I asked if you'd examined yourself to find out where they came from.

As to that, I don't think they should be there, no. But apparently it's not important anyway.

Yes, I do think it's important to examine yourself. If you wish to go through your entire life as a sheep, then far be it for me to stop you. Enjoy.
 
Or your a slut with no self esteem who believes thats all your good for.
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"Your"? Whose slut are we talking about? Yours or mine or Kofi Annan's?

Oh, did you mean "you're"?

Have you considered remedial English?

It's always amusing how unnattractive broads criticize other women for getting the action that they couldn't get in a room-full of sailors.

Since screaming "sinner" is no longer kosher, dumpy broads like you now claim "low self esteem", rather than face the fact of the matter - whoring is inextricably linked to high self-love.

Why should a woman have low self-esteem because she pursues pleasure? If anything, it is the dumpy, hair-shirted old bags who have low self-esteem.
 
Women cheat because they think they find somebody better but don't have the courage to break up with their old partner in case something don't work out.

Men are a lot less likely to cheat then women because men usually just dump their women outright for somebody else.

Now if you are married that is a different story.....
 
Originally posted by Joeman
Women cheat because they think they find somebody better but don't have the courage to break up with their old partner in case something don't work out.
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Ooooh errrr, ouch. I know someone who is guilty of that *whistles innocently and looks around the room*
 
I find it interesting that the case is often made for "low self esteem" when people talk about promiscous people. Even more interesting that the term is usually applied to women and not men. The assumption is often made on the premise that "self esteem" is garnered from adhering to an ethical standard which may not even exist for that person.

Some of us don't believe in monogamy. It's as simple as that. It just hasn't occured to some people that some might consider those who do have only one partner as having low self esteem, depending on their reasons for doing so.
 
Originally posted by Joeman
Women cheat because they think they find somebody better but don't have the courage to break up with their old partner in case something don't work out.
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They'd be better off finding the guts to be honest in the first place.

Men are a lot less likely to cheat then women because men usually just dump their women outright for somebody else.
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I don't agree with this at all, Joeman. They might be more likely to dump a partner, true, but usually have strayed a fair amount in the first place to find that new partner, yes?
 
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