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Right. So you don't want advice, and you don't want lack of advice. What do you want?
On any day there are thousands of people on this site, and many of them will have bigger problems than you do.
On any day there are thousands of people on this site, and many of them will have bigger problems than you do.
Sure. But keep in mind that this goes both ways.
Meaning - You have your own ways of dealing with your problems. Other people have their own ways of dealing with their problems.
When you post your problems here, you're dealing with those problems your way, and the posters here are dealing with you in their own ways.
Well, your way of dealing with your problems seems to be extremely silly, even stupid.
Let's see, you, as you say, have some physiological problems with your brain as well as psychological problems, and in order to make yourself feel better you get drunk and cry for total strangers on an internet board to cry together with you on your shoulder after many here discovered that your threads in physics have very little to do with physics and are on the boarder of pseudoscience. Does this seem to be a rational action to you? Do you intend to cause sympathy in order that your threads are not scrutinized so much?
You're just asking for trouble with this strategy, and if it's not a strategy, then actions.
Let's see, you, as you say, have some physiological problems with your brain as well as psychological problems, and in order to make yourself feel better you get drunk and cry for total strangers on an internet board to cry together with you on your shoulder after many here discovered that your threads in physics have very little to do with physics and are on the boarder of pseudoscience. Does this seem to be a rational action to you? Do you intend to cause sympathy in order that your threads are not scrutinized so much?
You're just asking for trouble with this strategy, and if it's not a strategy, then actions.
No, it's not. The thing is you are not fully accepting your own principle. Ie. you are not fully accepting that "We all deal with problems in different ways, and we handle them in also different perspectives."
You want that principle to be respected when it comes to you, but that others should abide by that principle only inasmuch as it pleases you.
In other words, you're selfish. You want that others cut you some slack, but you don't want to cut them some slack.
So, you accepted that it depends...
Now you're accusing me of not being diverse to my ownself???? I was expressing my difficulty. Not others.
No ones principles are ordained to please me. If this was the case, everything would be onesided, much like your arguement.
WTF are you on about?
Now you're accusing me of not being diverse to my ownself???? I was expressing my difficulty. Not others.
No ones principles are ordained to please me. If this was the case, everything would be onesided, much like your arguement.
WTF are you on about?
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You are begging others to be your guardian.
What is the "right way" to say it? We are not here to coddle you. You don't want empathy, but sympathy. Something you won't get when you willingly, knowingly and publically do everything that is detrimental to your situation. You're depressed? As I said before in another post. Yes. And? Your recognition of your own depressed state means you understand you have a problem. Instead of seeking professional help, you admit to using drugs and alcohol (and quite a bit of it as well) and posting about your depressed state. Only you did not just post about it, you posted it in a way to demand others share your burden and comfort you and cheer you up. What you fail to understand is that we don't know you. So how can we comfort a complete stranger? And one who takes everything as an insult, even when it was not meant to be an insult?
Christ, if you are depressed, an internet forum is the last place to discuss it. There are forums out there who deal with depression, but again that would be a bit iffy. And if you are a sufferer of SPD, this is the absolute worst place for you to be posting in.
Reading through your posts and responses to others here and in the other thread, it is as if you are testing everyone to see if their replies are 'textbook'. And if they aren't, you tell them how wrong they are and how they should be responding to someone in your situation. For example:
Reiku said:
Reiku said:
What has really annoyed me about your thread is that
you have flagged up a problem, and then attacked people who have tried to give you help and advice.
One piece of adivce that you were given is that if you suffer from depression then you need to steer clear of drugs, especially depressants like alcohol.
If you were paying £1000 an hour from the best psychiatrist in Europe you couldn't get better advice than that.
Now you can either take that advice, or reject it.
It's up to you.
you have flagged up a problem, and then attacked people who have tried to give you help and advice.
One piece of adivce that you were given is that if you suffer from depression then you need to steer clear of drugs, especially depressants like alcohol.
If you were paying £1000 an hour from the best psychiatrist in Europe you couldn't get better advice than that.
Now you can either take that advice, or reject it.
It's up to you.
Reiku:
You must realise that when you put yourself out there on the internet by revealing personal details, you will almost invariably get all kinds of different reactions. You want people to feel sorry for you, and maybe some do. But others will just think you're pathetic, or an attention-seeker, or whatever else they want to think about you.
If you do not wish to be judged on the internet, there's a simple solution: don't submit yourself for the judgement of others. I mean, it's like people who post their photo on www.hotornot.com and then feel hurt when people rate them as ugly.
If you want people to coddle you and make you feel better, a general internet forum is probably not the best place for that. If you have a specific problem, chances are there is a dedicated site somewhere for people who share your problem and who can give you sympathy, if that's what you want.
All of the above, and other things too, I'm sure.
Welcome to life.
You must realise that when you put yourself out there on the internet by revealing personal details, you will almost invariably get all kinds of different reactions. You want people to feel sorry for you, and maybe some do. But others will just think you're pathetic, or an attention-seeker, or whatever else they want to think about you.
If you do not wish to be judged on the internet, there's a simple solution: don't submit yourself for the judgement of others. I mean, it's like people who post their photo on www.hotornot.com and then feel hurt when people rate them as ugly.
If you want people to coddle you and make you feel better, a general internet forum is probably not the best place for that. If you have a specific problem, chances are there is a dedicated site somewhere for people who share your problem and who can give you sympathy, if that's what you want.
All of the above, and other things too, I'm sure.
Welcome to life.
learn to tell people to fuck off
I gave him the same advice lol
srsly
reiku: i'm depressed
xxxxx: no you're not depressed because blablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablablabla
reiku: fuck off
the end!
False: your whining inspired me to open another bottle of Bass.
Have you killed yourself yet?
And I was giving myself a prostrate massage?
It seems that everyone here, including yourself, doesn't seem to realise that depression, like extreme stress, is PHYSIOLOGICAL instead of psychological disorder. It's caused by a fundamental change in brain chemistry (the ultimate cause of which may have been mental, perhaps aggrevated by genetics), making affected persons have brains that basically behave differently from those of normal persons. Everyone knows that clinically depressed people can't "get over it" or "cheer up" as it's not really something they have complete control over.
Now, Reiku, in a perfect world, where everything I wished happened, here's what would happen:
1.You would stop drinking alcohol. You're being irresponsible and behaving like an immature child. Haven't you lived long enough and thought long enough to realise that if you continue doing that then there's absolutely no hope for you?
2. You would immediately leave this forum permanently and never come back, because it's quite obvious that you're better off alone than here reading some of these people's throw-up, and there's certainly nothing here that could possibly make your situation better. I'm appaled at the number of freaks that would crawl out and show you how much they hate you as soon as you show some vulnerability.
3. You would find a forum or online community especially devoted to helping other people out. There are many of these on the internet dedicated to depression (although they might be a bit too gloomy), and I suspect that you won't find many people there encouraging you to d i e.
Above all, good luck on dealing with your illness. Please start using your brains to make better choices generally? This implies stopping the drinking.
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