You guys are typing too fast.
Are you typing in English on a German keyboard? That will really slow you down. Y and Z are reversed because Z is one of the most common letters in German while Y is rare; whereas it's just the opposite in English. Because of the awkward slant left over from the days of manual typewriters, Z and Q are the most difficult letters to reach on an English keyboard; or Y and Q on a German one.
Haha then according to you I must be a bit crazy, but believe me there is a lot to prove at age 15, besides superiority, we can also prove our character.
Adolescence is a time when we strive to prove our individuality. As children we are programmed to learn how to be like everyone else, and as we enter adulthood we begin to accept the responsibility to be compatible with the tribe/nation/species--depending on the level of advancement of our own people--in order to promote further advancement. Its during the years in between that we try to find our own unique qualities that distinguish us from everyone else.
We don't only prove to other 15 year olds, we prove to respectable and important adults.
Perhaps most importantly, we want to prove it to
ourselves. As children we feel a sense of pride for fitting in, as teenagers we feel a sense of pride for becoming unique, and as adults we integrate those two aspects of our pride by using the combination of our unique characteristics and our commonalities, to find our place in the world.
Like I said, there is a reason why we think old and middle-aged men don't make sense, it's because they forgot their childhood and teen years.
Many of us are still preoccupied with things that went wrong in our youth. This is probably most common among the Baby Boomers (the first generation born after World War II), who felt an extreme lack of connection to their elders and tried very hard to create a different sort of world than the one they were born into, only to discover that their ability to do that was quite limited. This led to a lifelong feeling of frustration for many of them. But it's also not uncommon among those of us who are slightly older (the War Babies). There were not enough of us to be a "generation" and have a massive impact on our culture, so some of us aligned with the older kids (the Depression Babies), while others found it easier to integrate with the Boomers. (For me the choice was easy because I loved rock'n'roll and still do.
) So we're stuck in the same conundrum as the Boomers: How did we get this old without accomplishing all those things that we swore we would devote our lives to? Why is there still war, racism, poverty, sexism and religion?
Believe me, not being able to forget our childhood and teen years does not endear us to you younger people any more than forgetting them does!
There are some other things I would classify as not normal. In fact last year I stopped going to school for a week and I really can't tell you why. I just lay on the floor and thought about anything. I really can't tell you about what anymore but I also never saw this behavior on other kids. I just ignored my father with whom I'm living since 2 years. I also don't know the reason of that. Well there are some other things but I guess I've made my point.
Please understand that these things are in fact
quite normal at your age. Adults don't want you to know that so they try to not let you know that other kids are doing it, but they are. You apparently don't socialize well with other people your own age, so you are not completely aware of what they do or how they feel.
As long as you don't let this type of behavior consume you so that you fail to become educated or become completely estranged from your family, these incidents are just part of the process of growing up. The fact that you are analyzing them and trying to understand them puts you far ahead of other people your age, so you can be proud of that. Unfortunately it also makes you feel bad. So let me point out that one of the things you are also learning is that life can be unfair and difficult. By learning that now, and not just learning it but
trying to find a way to fix it, you are preparing yourself to be a wise adult. Again, you have a right to be proud of yourself.
I understand that Europeans in general are somewhat less prudish than Canadians.
Carolyn Hax, my favorite advice columnist, said it this way in her advice to an American who just came back from a European vacation with his head spinning: In Sweden it is not rude to be naked. It is just rude to notice.
No artist likes to cover. It is the thing we most hate in the world.
This is not true at all. If so, then all the great performers of symphonic and chamber music would hate what they do. There is great opportunity in interpretation, and that is creativity. Have you never heard two performances of the same piece and marveled at the fact that although both were stunning, they were quite different and evoked different emotions in you? A friend of mine is an award-winning composer and concert pianist. He wrote a piece called
Lullaby of War, which weaves around narrations of famous poems about the wars of the last couple of centuries. I've heard him perform it, and then I heard another of our friends (not a composer but a celebrated pianist) play it. I remarked to the composer that when he plays it, it makes me sad, but when the other fellow plays it, it makes me angry. They sound like two different pieces.
We don't think of pop music as having this same breadth of opportunity for interpretation by the performer, largely because with exceptions like the Progressive Rock era most of the compositions are much shorter. But those opportunities are there. Listen to
Lucie Silvas's rendition of Metallica's "Nothing Else Matters" or
Charlotte Martin singing the Rolling Stones' "Wild Horses," both with piano accompaniment rather than a guitar-centric band, or
Alana Davis's acoustic version of Blue Oyster Cult's "Don't Fear the Reaper." (Yeah, I'm a girl singer junkie.)
When I joined my current band I loved their songs (all original, many on CDs that are 15 or 20 years old) but I felt that something was lacking. So I rearranged the bass lines for almost all of them. They're falling all over themselves in gratitude, telling me that I've breathed new life into their music and raised it to a new plateau.
One does not have to go to these lengths to bring out something new in a pop song. It can be just like a sonata or a concerto: Play the same notes, but make slight changes in the dynamics, and people will hear it in a new way.
One thing about playing your own music is the rut . It is very easy to fall in the rut and never get out . You will have some of that as a signature anyway just by being you , but exploration in what you don't know can help keep you out of the rut.
This is why the bands we consider "great" don't play their songs the same way every time.
yesterday I had a "discussion" with my father. He wants me to do something usefull in the house like cleaning and he thinks that it is morally despicable and wants me to belive the same.
He is simply trying to teach you something that is crucial to being an honorable member of the human race: Everyone has to do their part to keep things running, or civilization will collapse. Your family home is a microcosm of the world: cleaning must be done, things must be kept in order, or else it will become a jungle and you won't be able to walk without tripping over something, you won't be able to find anything, and your food will make you sick.
Back in the Paleolithic Era 12,000 years ago, people didn't have houses or grocery stores. They just walked through the woods hunting animals and gathering plants to eat. They didn't have much work to do; it's estimated that it only took them three hours per day to find, cook and eat their food. But their lives were vapid. They slept on the ground and had no furniture or pottery, and only the most small, primitive musical instruments and artworks.
We invented agriculture, civilization, metalworking, industry and computers because we wanted more out of life than mere survival. As a result, we have to work more hours, but we have much richer lives.
Your father is simply doing his job, trying to raise a son who will be a productive member of civilization, rather than a caveman. If you don't get in the habit now of doing menial, uninteresting work in addition to the enjoyable work of composing music and discussing the philosophy of life on SciForums, life will be very difficult for you as an adult. You need to learn that even though, on the balance, life is very nice for most human beings here in the Developed World, there are some things that are not very nice
but nonetheless absolutely must be done. Maybe some day you will be rich and can pay somebody else to do your housework, but I assure you that even then there will be things you have to do that you don't like, just different things than the rest of us have to do. You will spend a lot of time in very boring meetings, trying to be nice to people you don't like!
I gave him an example of the Third Reich but he said that I was avoiding the problem.
That's funny! In America (and perhaps other anglophone countries) we use the term "Godwin's Law" to refer to an internet discussion in which someone compares something he doesn't like to Hitler and the Nazis. The rule says that once that remark is posted, the discussion will quickly die. Your father apparently followed the same rule.
He said that he does not know whether he should talk to me like a grown-up or a child and I told him that that's not his decision to make.
Of course it is.
He is the adult and you are the child! The role of a parent is to raise his child so the child learns how to be an adult. Until you learn that, he cannot treat you as an adult.
Adults don't drop out of their job for a week the way you dropped out of school. Adults don't leave their home dirty and expect someone else to do the work the way you do. Adults don't avoid the company of the people around them the way you avoid the other kids at school.
You are clearly not an adult! So your father absolutely cannot treat you like one.
