1. What ever is done between two are more consenting adults of mentally independent minds (not coursed or brainwashed) is their god dam business and no ones else!!! They can do whatever ogres, kink sex, etc they want, heck I'm willing to allow a person to go ahead and die of snuff sex and not charge that persons partner(s) if that person is proven to have been of sound mind (greatly unlikely!)
2. Gays should be allowed to get a marriage recognized by the state (which is all that matters) but no church should be forced to give that marriage. So they go to the courts sign a few documents, *boom* married, sure its not a glamorous as a wedding but what can be done most priests are pedophiliac assholes anyways. I'm also willing to allow multiple partner marriages as long as all partners can prove they are doing so out of sound mind without being coursed (also unlikely as I would include belief that placement in afterlife is depended on polygamy as brainwashed)
3. Employment in the economic work place or government shalt not forbid people based on gender, race, religion or sexual preference, now that does not forbid a non-profit organizations like a church from enacting their bigotry, they are neither government nor private employer.
4. People can hate others as long as they do so without committing crimes of violence or slander, so homophobes can go off in to their anti-gay circle jerks wishing they could come out of the closet, and no one should give a dam!
As for the religious argument: Religion should not dictate what secular societies do, if we want to pretend we are secular then we should act like it.
As for the women need special care argument: Women commit spousal abuse just as much as men Women commit sexual abuse of children at equivalent rates as men if we account for how under-reported it is. Women commit child abuse and neglect just as much as men. Women are granted custody more often probably because of erroneous sexual stereotypes opposite to the above fact still being believed by the judges and by the plaintiffs them selves.
As for gays and adoption: There is no evidence gays can't raise children to be functional adults or not abuse those children at rates any greater the heterosexuals do. So I see nothing against gays raising kids.
As for the case of eunichs: Some people are fucking crazy live with it. *yeah don't click on that its a trap!*
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