While reading an unrelated column on America's War on Terror in the Huffington post, I came across this astonishing statement:
The link given leads to a book reference but seriously, wtf?
Does anyone know more about this?
I found a bit more on this:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/01/28/AR2006012800062_2.html
Anyone know anything about this?
I've noticed two distinct reactions to my accounts of teens who are taken from their beds at three in the morning, shouted at, beaten, deprived of food and sleep, kept in stress positions for weeks, sexually humiliated (girls made to dress as prostitutes; boys dressed in drag) and completely isolated from media and other contact with the outside world -- all in an attempt to end their drug and/or behavior problems.
The link given leads to a book reference but seriously, wtf?
Does anyone know more about this?
I found a bit more on this:
The trouble with tough love is twofold. First, the underlying philosophy -- that pain produces growth -- lends itself to abuse of power. Second, and more important, toughness doesn't begin to address the real problem. Troubled teenagers aren't usually "spoiled brats" who "just need to be taught respect." Like me, they most often go wrong because they hurt, not because they don't want to do the right thing. That became all the more evident to me when I took a look at who goes to these schools.
A surprisingly large number are sent away in the midst of a parental divorce; others are enrolled for depression or other serious mental illnesses. Many have lengthy histories of trauma and abuse. The last thing such kids need is another experience of powerlessness, humiliation and pain.
Sadly, tough love often looks as if it works: For one thing, longitudinal studies find that most kids, even amongst the most troubled, eventually grow out of bad behavior, so the magic of time can be mistaken for the magic of treatment. Second, the experience of being emotionally terrorized can produce compliance that looks like real change, at least initially.
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The bigger picture suggests that tough love tends to backfire.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/01/28/AR2006012800062_2.html
Anyone know anything about this?
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