Robtex said:
how would you apply an eye for an eye in this instance with the info presented, and how does it apply to parenting overall
The selling of the PS2 isn't a tremendous issue with me, but rather the way in which it is done; the focus is on money, not discipline. Whether or not the problem actually stems from the PS2 is irrelevant; there are no games included, which tells me that if the kid manages to put together the money somehow (paper route, &c), they will allow him to buy another. As far as that goes, fine. But making money the important issue, in my opinion, only elevates the importance of money in the child's mind without saying much about discipline and order.
The kid drinks alcohol without permission, and the issue is money?
And a couple of notes that I have generally left unquestioned, but are at least worth mentioning:
• I hadn't realized that champagne required constant refrigeration. I should probably go get the bottles left over from a friend's wedding out of the garage and put them in the fridge now, so they don't spoil. Or, if I am wrong in that assessment, did the kid put the bottle in the back of the refrigerator, or did he, as it is expressed at eBay, put the bottle back in the refrigerator? If it's that important, they should use the money from the PS2 toward the purchase of a small refrigerator (dorm fridge) that mom and dad can lock.
• I noticed it was never established that the kid actually broke the bugle; as described, I can certainly imagine a kid covering for himself by saying that, but there's a large amount of presumption there for us, who have chosen to cast our minor judgments.
Discipline and order and respect? Those are things the child seems to need to learn. Money? Well, that's what seems to be important to the parent(s).
A different presentation of the issues could have refocused on discipline, order, and respect. But the eBay seller chose to focus on the monetary aspect.
Of your four points, the only thing I wanted to mention that may seem like disagreement (well, okay, is disagreement) is in point #3. The pitch seems to reinforce a firm asking price:
I can't take "best offer" below the asking price because ....
However, that still seems in accord with the rest of your point #3, I believe.