The "true identity" I am referring to is when it is formulated like
"I am a child of God, and this is who I really am"
"I am a good person, and this is who I really am"
"I am a bad person, and this is who I really am"
"I am a human, and this is who I really am"
"I am a liar, and this is who I really am"
"I always speak the truth, and this is who I really am"
"I am worthless, and this is who I really am"
"I deserve to be happy, and this is who I really am"
"I am a blob of matter, and this is who I really am"
"I am a product of evolution, and this is who I really am"
"I am a bully, and this is who I really am"
"I am a victim, and this is who I really am"
"I am a wife (husband), and this is who I really am"
"I am a philosopher, and this is who I really am"
"I am an amateur, and this is who I really am"
"I am white, and this is who I really am"
"I am Jewish, and this is who I really am"
- and so on. All these identifications are partial or speculative. My point is that whatever identification we would come up with, it would be partial or speculative, covering only a portion of our existence or speculating about it. When our self-definition is based on such a partial or speculative identification, we are bound to miss and neglect other parts - which leads to misery for us, and for others.