Well I'm pretty much gone after this post but I felt this question could raise an interesting discussion. And let me insist first off that the purpose of this thread is not a fight nor a childesh back-patting conversation where one person makes a comment and three people have to come in and say they agree.
The question at hand deals with a quote of Bebalina's which states that 'words on a screen can hurt as much as words in real life.' Now, I personally have not felt pain from words in real life in a long time. And certainly have not felt pain from words on the internet. And more than definetly not from words like 'fuck you'. I remember when I was 13 and my parents fought largely because of my actions. My hockey occupied my dad's time to a point that certainly didn't please my mom. Without going into too much detail I was actually the cause of most of my parents fights at this time. One Friday I left school with 3 of my friends and we ended up going to a movie that night. I didn't call my parents to say what time I would be home (keep in mind, 13 years old and in a big city with overprotective parents). I get home at 12:00. My dad looked at me with disgust and told me what a pathetic kid I was. I was okay with this; it was/is true. When I get upstairs my mom had her usual look for when I'm in trouble. That look that says she's been preparring a speech for me for abotu 2 hours. Then she surprised me and just looked me in the eye and calmly said; "You a disappointment of a child. When I look at you, all I can think is that I must have gone wrong somewhere with you. You are the epitemy of everything I use to fear my child would become." At first I brushed this off the same as any other comment from my parents when they're angry. When I got to bed that night I started thinking about it and how sincere my mom was in that comment. A woman who would usually spend 3-4 hours yelling at me had been pushed to the limit of three calm sentances. And for the first time since I was really young I was sincerely pained by words. I was their biggest disappointment? My mom, who use to help me with my homework and edit my book reports when I went off to hockey thought I was the worst teenager imaginable? My mom who went out of her way nearly every day for me when I was young truly despised me? My mom who stood up for me when I was too small to fight my battles regretted every minute of it? My mom who's greatest joys in life use to come from seeing me happy prayed for my 18th birthday? My god. What have I given away?
I've never felt hurt by words of insult. Like I said elsewhere I've been called dirty jew, fucking canuck, go back to canada... and so on and so on. We sang our national anthem when we won a tournament and got booed by the parents of the other team and the other yanks at the tournament. You know what, it just made me feel more proud to kick their ass. I'm interested in other people's views and I'm going to have to pull this thread back out when I get back from L.A. Has anyone been hurt by being called a name since they got out of elementary school? I think words can hurt, but only when the words carry some meaning that conveys a real emotional pain. Thanks.
The question at hand deals with a quote of Bebalina's which states that 'words on a screen can hurt as much as words in real life.' Now, I personally have not felt pain from words in real life in a long time. And certainly have not felt pain from words on the internet. And more than definetly not from words like 'fuck you'. I remember when I was 13 and my parents fought largely because of my actions. My hockey occupied my dad's time to a point that certainly didn't please my mom. Without going into too much detail I was actually the cause of most of my parents fights at this time. One Friday I left school with 3 of my friends and we ended up going to a movie that night. I didn't call my parents to say what time I would be home (keep in mind, 13 years old and in a big city with overprotective parents). I get home at 12:00. My dad looked at me with disgust and told me what a pathetic kid I was. I was okay with this; it was/is true. When I get upstairs my mom had her usual look for when I'm in trouble. That look that says she's been preparring a speech for me for abotu 2 hours. Then she surprised me and just looked me in the eye and calmly said; "You a disappointment of a child. When I look at you, all I can think is that I must have gone wrong somewhere with you. You are the epitemy of everything I use to fear my child would become." At first I brushed this off the same as any other comment from my parents when they're angry. When I got to bed that night I started thinking about it and how sincere my mom was in that comment. A woman who would usually spend 3-4 hours yelling at me had been pushed to the limit of three calm sentances. And for the first time since I was really young I was sincerely pained by words. I was their biggest disappointment? My mom, who use to help me with my homework and edit my book reports when I went off to hockey thought I was the worst teenager imaginable? My mom who went out of her way nearly every day for me when I was young truly despised me? My mom who stood up for me when I was too small to fight my battles regretted every minute of it? My mom who's greatest joys in life use to come from seeing me happy prayed for my 18th birthday? My god. What have I given away?
I've never felt hurt by words of insult. Like I said elsewhere I've been called dirty jew, fucking canuck, go back to canada... and so on and so on. We sang our national anthem when we won a tournament and got booed by the parents of the other team and the other yanks at the tournament. You know what, it just made me feel more proud to kick their ass. I'm interested in other people's views and I'm going to have to pull this thread back out when I get back from L.A. Has anyone been hurt by being called a name since they got out of elementary school? I think words can hurt, but only when the words carry some meaning that conveys a real emotional pain. Thanks.