I learned recently that a friend of mine, whom I haven’t heard from in a number of months has recently been in an accident and is presently in a hospital – possibly in a coma.
I only learned of this situation a few days ago when I saw his name signed onto an IM client, and I sent him a message asking where he’d been. Instead of him I got his sister who told me pretty tersely that he’d been in an accident and was in a coma. I expressed my sympathy and tried to inquire more about what had happened and what his condition was or, being that I still don’t know how recent this accident happened and how emotional she might me or how critical his situation might be, if she could let him know that I had been asking after him and wish him well when he’s in a condition to hear it.
Before she read my own questions she threw one right back at me, “Let me guess, you're gay [sic]”. Now I thought it was a little odd to phrase it like that, but being that her brother is also gay and she might be upset. . . or just blunt (I’d never met or talked with her before) I answered her in the affirmative without thinking much of it. What I got next in return was, “I'm sorry, I don't associate with your kind, I deal with my brother because he is in charge of the family money and I depend on him to pay my bills and put me through college. I think what you do is disgusting and a sin against God and you are all going to hell.”
How wonderfully endearing, right? For the past three nights I’ve been arguing with her and one of her brothers who seems to be of a similar mind on this issue. I’ve tried to remain polite and rational though they keep meeting me with nothing but insults, haphazard rationalizations as to why they refuse to talk to me, and of course a lot of fire and brimstone preaching. They refuse to honor my request to bring any word to their brother (which, from certain things they’ve said I believe may well be conscious again) or to answer any questions about his condition, if he’ll be alright or anything of the sort. To make matters worse, earlier tonight they took my name off of the buddy’s list on my friend’s computer, and blocked all incoming IMs from me.
Words can’t describe the fury I’m feeling right now. A very good friend of mine may nearly have been killed, may well be maimed in any number of ways and I can’t get any information on his situation – I can’t get any word to him, and all because his siblings are a pair of cold hearted hate filled blind fanatics. I don’t even know what hospital he’s in or how long he’s been there, these assholes have cut me off completely. And then they have the gaul to lecture me about what it is to be righteous even while they admit that they hate their brother and only maintain contact with him because of his money!
This alone has me seeing red, and feeling ready to kill, I can hardly believe that people like this exist, how could anyone live with a family like this? My respect for this friend of mine has grown greatly, it must have taken amazing courage to be out, and at such an early age, with a family of rabid attack dogs like this. To make matters worse it seems that his brother and sister are at his place (and on his computer) to clear house as it were. They told me that they’re clearing out his things – clearing away all the trappings of his “former life” because they’re going to use this tragedy as an opportunity to get him to “renounce his homosexuality” and of course I guess that means forcefully shutting off contact with evil gay friends like myself.
My only hope right now is that they haven’t got the passwords for his e-mail account so that if and when he’s recovered and out of the hospital he can see right away that I’d been trying to get in contact with him. We’ll definitely have to have a talk about his family. They are completely unbelievable.
I only learned of this situation a few days ago when I saw his name signed onto an IM client, and I sent him a message asking where he’d been. Instead of him I got his sister who told me pretty tersely that he’d been in an accident and was in a coma. I expressed my sympathy and tried to inquire more about what had happened and what his condition was or, being that I still don’t know how recent this accident happened and how emotional she might me or how critical his situation might be, if she could let him know that I had been asking after him and wish him well when he’s in a condition to hear it.
Before she read my own questions she threw one right back at me, “Let me guess, you're gay [sic]”. Now I thought it was a little odd to phrase it like that, but being that her brother is also gay and she might be upset. . . or just blunt (I’d never met or talked with her before) I answered her in the affirmative without thinking much of it. What I got next in return was, “I'm sorry, I don't associate with your kind, I deal with my brother because he is in charge of the family money and I depend on him to pay my bills and put me through college. I think what you do is disgusting and a sin against God and you are all going to hell.”
How wonderfully endearing, right? For the past three nights I’ve been arguing with her and one of her brothers who seems to be of a similar mind on this issue. I’ve tried to remain polite and rational though they keep meeting me with nothing but insults, haphazard rationalizations as to why they refuse to talk to me, and of course a lot of fire and brimstone preaching. They refuse to honor my request to bring any word to their brother (which, from certain things they’ve said I believe may well be conscious again) or to answer any questions about his condition, if he’ll be alright or anything of the sort. To make matters worse, earlier tonight they took my name off of the buddy’s list on my friend’s computer, and blocked all incoming IMs from me.
Words can’t describe the fury I’m feeling right now. A very good friend of mine may nearly have been killed, may well be maimed in any number of ways and I can’t get any information on his situation – I can’t get any word to him, and all because his siblings are a pair of cold hearted hate filled blind fanatics. I don’t even know what hospital he’s in or how long he’s been there, these assholes have cut me off completely. And then they have the gaul to lecture me about what it is to be righteous even while they admit that they hate their brother and only maintain contact with him because of his money!
This alone has me seeing red, and feeling ready to kill, I can hardly believe that people like this exist, how could anyone live with a family like this? My respect for this friend of mine has grown greatly, it must have taken amazing courage to be out, and at such an early age, with a family of rabid attack dogs like this. To make matters worse it seems that his brother and sister are at his place (and on his computer) to clear house as it were. They told me that they’re clearing out his things – clearing away all the trappings of his “former life” because they’re going to use this tragedy as an opportunity to get him to “renounce his homosexuality” and of course I guess that means forcefully shutting off contact with evil gay friends like myself.
My only hope right now is that they haven’t got the passwords for his e-mail account so that if and when he’s recovered and out of the hospital he can see right away that I’d been trying to get in contact with him. We’ll definitely have to have a talk about his family. They are completely unbelievable.
